There is a shortage of educated men — husband hunters beware!

Jul 13, 2015 at 12:36 p.m. ET
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If it seems harder to find an educated man than ever before, that's probably because it is. In 2012, 34 percent more women than men graduated from college and the resulting shortage means a lot of educated women may end up single in the long run.

The fact is, the odds of a college graduate marrying a non-college graduate is the lowest since the 1950s. Is this just snobbery?

It doesn't really seem like it.

The truth is, when it comes to love, most of us (if not all of us) are looking for our equal. We are looking for someone who can provide equally (if not better) for our family, and someone who shares our values. Not every college graduate values education. Not every high school only graduate doesn't value it. But it sure is an easy way to judge people.

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I know many women who have flat out refused dates with men who don't at least have an undergraduate degree. It may sound snobby to an outsider, but it also makes sense. I seriously dated three men with a variety of educational levels and the one who suited me best was the one with the same level of education I had (graduate degree). I would have happily married someone without a degree if we were compatible, but the men I dated who were less educated than me simply were not.

A college (or higher) degree means more earning power. It means more opportunity. And it means you have someone who is willing to work a long time to earn something. It means the person (likely) values education. So what's wrong with wanting those qualities in a mate? Why does that make a person snobby?

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Women who have a checklist of qualities they want in a man are vilified by articles in women's magazines and told they are "too picky." But why shouldn't a woman (or a man for that matter) be her pickiest when choosing a mate? We are talking about a lifetime together. Many jobs require college degrees, so why shouldn't a woman think that way when looking for a spouse?

There is a reason people marry others like themselves. It's not snobby. It's practical.

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