Plenty of long-term relationships begin in a work environment. But a good number of them end painfully for various reasons, and that can make for a rough time at the office. Here, we help you break down whether pursuing an office relationship is worth it in the long run.
Determining whether an office relationship is worth it comes down to a few basic questions.
Is it against the rules?
Many workplaces have protocols about inter-office dating. In some cases, dating could end in one or both of you facing serious consequences. This is most commonly the case when one person is in a higher position than the other. Regardless, you should brush up on your knowledge of the rules before deciding to take the next step. It may be as simple as signing a piece of paper, or there may be no legal repercussions at all. But it is still wise to know exactly what you are getting into before getting involved.
Is it serious?
Before embarking on a new relationship, ask yourself this: Is this just a mild flirtation, or do I really see us going somewhere? It is all too easy to put more emphasis on your feelings toward a person than might be there in the long run. So before you decide to become a couple, you need to make sure you are both in the same place. Have a discussion about how each of you is feeling so you can decide whether you are equally serious about taking the next step. That way you can be 100 per cent sure you are both in it for the long haul.
Do you feel you can trust him?
It probably isn’t the best idea to jump into a relationship with a co-worker who you have known for only two weeks, as you can’t be sure what will happen in the end. True, breakups can be messy regardless of how long you have known the person, but at least if you have been working and conversing for a while, you can have a slightly better idea. It is important that you trust each other and know you will both look out for each other’s best interests regardless of how things turn out.
Are you ready?
The office really isn’t the best place for a rebound or a casual fling. It may be tempting to get into a relationship with someone you see every day simply because they’re constantly around and therefore in your thoughts. But doing so before you are ready could end badly. If you decide to go through the process of getting into a relationship with someone you know you will see every day regardless of how things go, make sure you are ready for it.
Does it feel right?
When it comes down to it, all you can do is go with your gut. When it comes to love, sometimes all the rationalizing in the world won’t do a pinch of good. Do your best to weigh the pros and cons, but chances are, the decision you’ll feel best about is the one that lies in your heart. And even if it goes sour, at least you’ll have learned something in the process.