Love horoscopes: May 5 – May 11
Loved ones will say "no" to just about everything thanks to the Venus/Mars opposition on May 11. Both planets are in the zodiac signs of their detriment which means that they’re cranky, ornery and impossible to please. Does this mean you have to batten down the hatches and tough it out? Not necessarily. In fact, this might be the perfect time to couch requests in such a way so that they’re the opposite of what you want — like telling your boyfriend that you don’t want to talk (when you do) or that you want to take a break (when you want to be closer). Venus and Mars in opposite signs are so contrary for contrary's sake that he may wind up doing exactly what you want.
ARIES (March 20 – April 18)
You can't live with him and you can't live without him. That's what you'll be feeling when Venus opposes Mars on May 11. If you were free to do as you please, you would probably decamp, but the mutual reception of these two planets shows that he's still stuck on you despite words and actions to the contrary. It's trying to figure out what he really wants that's driving you crazy. Keep in mind that passive aggressive is still aggressive. This would be a good time to respond with some inertness of your own.
TAURUS (April 19 – May 19)
Don't get depressed if the guys aren't calling or texting you back. You probably couldn't get a date now if you tried — not with the sun opposite Saturn on May 10. It's analogous to trying to move a beached boat at low tide. There just isn't enough love energy to float any interest. People are preoccupied, overburdened or just not around. If you're in a relationship, then give your partner plenty of elbowroom. He's feeling all kinds of glum and could be a real downer. Treat yourself to something diverting — like retail therapy.
GEMINI (May 20 – June 19)
You'd have better luck making up your mind plucking flower petals while saying “he loves me, he loves me not.” But even then you'd probably still be undecided after defoliating the entire field. The problem isn't with him; it's with you. For some reason he just isn't measuring up to expectations. Maybe he's not ambitious enough, brings too much emotional baggage to the table, or you're too focused on work right now. In any case, you're going to have to decide either to ditch him or your expectations next week. It's one or the other.
CANCER (June 20 – July 21)
It almost doesn't matter if he disappoints you as long as you know that he's really trying. And you can see that he is despite his many screwups. But this is where friends don't get it. They think that you're being far too lenient and understanding. What they don't appreciate is that you were born under the most nurturing sign of the zodiac. It's in your nature to be sympathetic, supportive and encouraging. You might point out that these are the very same qualities that friends always expect from you, so why would you show your lover anything less?
LEO (July 22 – Aug. 21)
Leo is the sign of the “good father” in astrology. It's why people seek your approval and recognition. What you say matters to them. Usually this is a good thing except for this week when friends, loved ones and even your beloved start behaving like unruly brats. What's worse is that they expect you to put up with it. Well, that might work with a Pisces, but not with a lioness like you. Feel free to knock them upside the head (figuratively speaking of course) and to put them in their place on May 9.
VIRGO (Aug. 22 – Sept. 21)
It's pretty clear that you won't be able to disentangle yourself from your current relationship. Either you depend on him too much for your survival or you've spent so much money financing your lifestyle together that you simply can't afford to cut ties. Most people would feel trapped in a situation like this, but for some reason your predicament is having the opposite effect. You might even say that you've never felt closer to him. It only goes to show that sometimes it's the closed door that opens a window to the chambers of the heart.
LIBRA (Sept. 22 – Oct. 21)
It will be hard to make heads or tails of your relationship when Mars opposes Venus on May 11. Mars and Venus are flip sides of the same coin. Mars is desire. It sees something it wants and races after it. Venus is the object of desire. If Venus sees something she wants, she shows a little leg and what she wants comes racing after her. It will be hard to tell which role you'll be playing as it looks like you and he might be trading places. Thank heavens we live in an age that celebrates versatility.
SCORPIO (Oct. 22 – Nov. 20)
For weeks people have asked you to be more real. Your response was to tell them what you think about them — uncensored and without apology. As you've probably figured out by now, this wasn't exactly what loved ones and friends had in mind. Perhaps the “real” that they were looking for was you and not your opinions? It's ironic that for someone who likes to get naked you're having a hard time undressing emotionally. It comes from years of living defensively. The Saturn/sun opposition on May 10 says it's time for that guard to come down.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 21 – Dec. 20)
Once again your spouse is being dragged down by family ties. It irks you the way that they take advantage of him and the fact that he's such a willing victim doesn't help. These behavior patterns were set in stone long before you arrived on the scene so there's no way you're going to change that dynamic. However, you can help him to make different choices based on your familiarity with the players and your insight. He may not be able to break with history, but it doesn't mean he has to repeat it either.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 21 – Jan. 18)
This week you'll be feeling your age. Even if you're only 23 you'll still feel like you're 161 in dog years. The culprit here is Saturn, the planet of time, and its opposition to the sun on May 10 will bring out all of the aches and pains, woes and worries about growing old. Needless to say this is all in your head and the effect will lift once the influence of the planet passes (May 17). You may feel old on the inside but Capricorns are famous for aging backwards on the outside.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 19 – Feb. 17)
Expect accusations of treachery, betrayal and deceit this week. Not only will you hear this from certain loved ones and relatives, but you'll experience it in the workplace too. You have nothing to apologize for nor should you feel like you have to explain yourself. The outraged parties have only themselves to blame for the predicaments they now find themselves in. All you did was step out of the way and let their very own human nature run its course. You're a firm believer in giving those pains-in-the-derriere in your life enough rope to hang themselves.
PISCES (Feb. 18 – March 19)
Not speaking up is creating more trouble than it's worth. It's always tempting to avoid rocking the boat when Neptune squares Mercury (May 11), but you'll find that this will only make matters worse. If there's something you're not saying, a secret you're not divulging or information that you're sitting on, then it's best to rethink that decision. Not disclosing everything to a lover about a certain situation can be just as deceptive as lying. It could really erode trust. You'll want to come clean before May 14 otherwise it might be too late.