Diane Farr is kissing outside the lines

Nov 2, 2011 at 10:00 a.m. ET

There are joys and oys when it comes to mixed-race love. In actress and author Diane Farr's latest book, Kissing Outside The Lines: A True Story of Love and Race and Happily Ever After, she captures the sometimes bumpy but beautiful road of interracial marriage.

Diane Farr is best known for her roles on television shows such as Numb3rs, Californication and Rescue Me, but now she's taken on a new sort of role: author. Kissing Outside The Lines is a memoir about her relationship with her husband, Seung Yong.

Kissing Outside the Lines is Farr's look at interracial love, told through Farr's experience of dating, marrying and creating a family with someone from a difference race and culture. In the book, she brings to light how prejudice shows up openly in public and discreetly with friends, family and society in general. The book also includes stories of other multiracial couples in the U.S.

One of the great things about this book is that Farr shares the true innermost thoughts she experienced when she first met her Korean American husband, Seung Yong, who she deemed "Giant Korean" when she first met him. Farr admits she could not even pronounce either one of his names when they first met.

One of my favorite quotes from the book is from Farr's mother who admitted, "We always hoped that Diane would not marry outside of our race," which of course creates a moment of silence. Many people will be able to relate to this awkward moment if they have ever taken home a lover that their parents were not expecting.

What I would have loved more of in the book is further information on how the relationship developed between Farr and her husband. There were moments when I got a little lost in the story, maybe because I was searching for more details about how they fell in love and made their way down the aisle. There were some downright sweet stories about the two of them sprinkled in the book, and I wanted more. It also would have shown more of the tension that mixed race couples face. Then again, it's her journey and that is how she experienced it.

Farr is a fun and clever writer, which makes the book a good read. It's also nice to have a book about mixed race couples that isn't only about the usual black and white couple. If you have ever been in an interracial relationship, you will even find yourself chuckling out loud in a few spots because you will be able to relate in more ways than one.

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