6 Relationship tips from Hollywood golden couples
Ah, Hollywood, where marriages are as short-lived as they are glamorous. But in a town where relationships are over before their tabloid cover stories have even hit newsstands, a few celebrity unions have managed to hold on. So how do they do it? Read on for some Tinseltown words of wisdom.
Relationships are hard enough without the added burden of media scrutiny, tabloid rumors and perpetual separations, so it's always a surprise when any Hollywood couple holds on long enough to even see their one-year anniversary. Yet despite the odds stacked against them, a few celebrity twosomes have still managed to avoid the pitfalls of a "Hollywood marriage." How do they do it? Here's how a few Hollywood golden couples are making it work:
"If you love someone, you want to treat them, surprise them, remind them how you feel…"
David Beckham, married to Victoria Beckham for 12 years
"Posh" and "Becks" have built a solid relationship that has lasted more than 14 years, thanks, in part, to David's efforts to keep the romance alive. (Weekend getaways and breakfast in bed seem to do the trick, he's said.) And the couple's bond is now even stronger -- the ultra-glam power couple recently celebrated the arrival of their fourth child -- daughter (and future fashion plate) Harper.
"Divorce is not an option."
Will Smith, married to Jada Pinkett for 13 years
The key to marriage longevity, according to Will Smith and Jada Pinkett: You can't throw in the towel. "What I found is divorce just can't be an option," Will explained during an appearance on Ellen DeGeneres' show. "And I think that's the problem with L.A. -- there are so many options. So a huge part of the success for [Jada] and I is that we just removed the other options." But even after more than a decade together, the A-list couple still isn't immune to Hollywood gossip. Just last month, they released a joint statement to dispel rumors of a break-up and reaffirm their commitment to the marriage. 'Til death -- seriously!
"I like having some mystery in our relationship."
Sarah Jessica Parker, married to Matthew Broderick for 13 years
Guys have secrets and Sarah Jessica Parker is totally cool with that. In fact, when it comes to her relationship with husband Matthew Broderick, she encourages it, as she told Parade magazine: "I like having some mystery in our relationship. I like not knowing everything about my husband. I think people should have things that are theirs, things that are the unknown to someone else. I think it's good to have some privacy and some secrets in our lives."
"You got to want to be married to the person you're married to."
Rita Wilson, married to Tom Hanks for 23 years
They work together; they play together. And considering they've been a twosome for more than twenty years, you might think the success of Rita Wilson and Tom Hanks' Hollywood marriage is nothing short of a miracle. But as Rita recently explained, it all boils down to simply liking each other. "We want to be married to each other. I think that's very, very important [to want to be married]. You got to want to be married to the person you're married to. We still like each other a lot."
"Change the rules."
Kyra Sedgwick, married to Kevin Bacon for 23 years
For Kyra Sedgwick, her marriage and family have always been top priorities, but when a starring role on The Closer came along, she learned the importance of encouraging each other to nurture their own independence. The show, which was a major career boost, also means Kyra is away from her family six months out of the year, but they make it work. "A big key is giving each other the room to grow and change the rules. It's hard, but Kev was always like, 'Whatever you need, honey,' and I admire him for that."
"Flirting is healthy, tension is good."
Goldie Hawn, committed to Kurt Russell for 27 years
They may have never officially taken the plunge, but Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell's relationship is still solid, even more than 27 years later. But she isn't looking for him to put a ring on it in the near future. In fact, Goldie says, a little freedom is what keeps their relationship "fresh." "Flirting is healthy; tension is good. I want a girl to want [Kurt]. I like it. It's up to Kurt how he handles it -- we argue, but it shows I still care."