Must-know dating signals: Is your date into your date?

Dec 17, 2012 at 6:00 p.m. ET

Going on a date with someone new is pretty much like an actor going on their first Hollywood audition. The nerves, the butterflies, the uneasy feeling of trying to answer your own question, "How am I doing?"... it's all just a recipe for disaster.

Man on date texting

Before I went on a new date (and trust me, I've been on quite a few), I would go in with an air of confidence. This is because I knew that the date would either go really well or really hell — where the latter would give me the opportunity to go home, smoke a bowl and write all about it in a blog for my fans to read. Think Carrie Bradshaw but Jewish and pot-smoking.

After years of dating and hoping/waiting for The One, I was able to accrue some knowledge on how the male mind works. Between that and having a bunch of guy friends to help analyze signals, I'd consider myself an expert. Yea, I said it. Here are some surefire ways to know that your date is not into your date... and would rather be fishing:


He's constantly looking at his watch

Sure, maybe there's a game on that he doesn't want to miss after dinner, and if you're a positive thinker, you can certainly convince yourself of that. The reality is nothing — and I mean nothing — would take his attention away from you if he wholeheartedly wanted to be there with you.


He keeps getting phone calls... and taking them

Unless he's covering the presidential election for CNN in real time, his attention should be focused on your conversation and getting to know you.


He looks like he just rolled out of bed: The joke is on us, ladies

Everyone always comments about how long it takes a woman to get ready to go out, but the truth is, when a man really cares, he takes just as long! If your date looks disheveled (and not in the hipster I-don't-care-what-I-look-like way), then he probably doesn't care to impress you.


There's a TV behind you... and he's watching it

Sometimes, dates opt for a more low-key bar option to meet up for drinks. Great. While that might be a red flag for a first or second date, that's not necessarily a deal breaker. However, if your date's eyes are plastered to the TV behind you, instead of into your eyes, then we have a problem.


All of a sudden, he has to leave

Hellllllllo ladies! This is a slam dunk sign that he's not into you and over the date. In fact, if his phone rings and then he says he has to leave, just lose this guy's number. It ain't gonna happen.

Women are innately instinctual people. If you're on a date where your date is just not into it, you will know even without the signs. Go with your gut and don't get too attached. Always keep your expectations managed. You WILL find the right man for you!

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