Happy fall, sweet signs. We just celebrated the autumn equinox, and the transition to fall is now COMPLETE. We are fully here, and if my internet shopping cart is indicative of anything—we’re all ready to wear sweaters that double as blankets. Like, winter-lite, you know? Anyways, October. It’s here. The time to panic about Halloween costumes is in about two weeks, but don’t worry: I’m going to be Pikachu. It’s also Libra season, and what that means in your October 2019 horoscope is this is the time to relax a little bit, enjoy time with friends and family and welcome a little more balance and leisure into your life.
Libra season also encourages us to look at the world a little more equitably. What is just and fair? So often we let ourselves be fueled by our own wants and desires without really looking at the bigger picture or impact. For instance, perhaps we should shop less fast fashion and more sustainable and ethical fashion—even if that sequin top that I know I’ll probably wear only once costs $30 while a basic tee made from recycled materials costs $75. I may want that sequin top, but do I really want it, considering its impact on this earth? (The answer is no.)
So, how do we balance our feelings with what is right and just? It’s a conversation I have with my students almost daily. And here’s the simple truth: It is really, really hard, and there is usually always room for improvement.
Something that will help all the signs this month (and beyond) is to remember that feelings aren’t facts. Just because someone was being unfair and made you sad doesn’t mean that that their criticism is now an indisputable truth. The best way to regulate our feelings and make sure we don’t become huge, scary monsters is to be mindful of our thoughts. If we can reach and change our thoughts before they become emotionally charged, we have a better chance at avoiding knee-jerk reactions or unnecessary conflict.
Focusing on our thoughts and reflecting on what we spend time thinking about actually gives us more mental space. It gives us room to be imperfect without judgement, which is something we all desperately need. This October, all signs would do well to remind themselves that your thoughts determine your feelings. And if you want to be happier, that’s where you should start.
This story was originally published on Stylecaster.