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First date hair dos and don’ts

Heading on a first date? While you’re figuring out where to go and what to wear, don’t forget to give your hair some attention! Justine Piecuch, hairstylist at Boston’s renowned Jeffrey Lyle Salon, shares her first date hair dos and don’ts.

Woman with ponytail on date

First dates couldn’t be more nerve-wracking. If all we had to do was put together the final details, it would probably be a piece of cake. Instead we spend countless hours trying on 20 different outfits and talking in the mirror, trying to figure out how to describe ourselves.

In the process, we tend to forget one minor thing: what men think about our hair at first sight. I have always been one to question my single male clients about their dating lives and am always shocked to see how much they actually DO notice the small things. Being a hairstylist, they always tell me what they thought about a woman’s hair. Taking their thoughts, here are some of the dos and don’ts of first date hair!

Do maintain your hair color

If you have gray roots, get them done. Visible roots can reveal a lot about a woman’s age, and men will quickly notice. Besides, obvious roots just look sloppy and unkempt! If it’s the cost of coloring that you’re concerned about, work out a plan with your stylist. Single gals should always look somewhat put together when looking for a mate.

Do trim unruly ends

If it’s been a while and you need to really work to smooth out those ends, go get them trimmed. One thing men do notice is whether or not hair looks good. Guys like things that look shiny, healthy and natural! Dead hair looks frizzy and dry, and nothing says you don’t take care of yourself more than that.

Don’t get over done

Before you go out, think about the place you’re going and try to create an appropriate ‘do just like you would an outfit. If you’re doing something active, a simply pony is perfect. Getting overly done says you’re way too high maintenance, and although some men love this, it’s a major turn off for most.

Do put some effort in

Getting over done is a definite no, but not doing anything at all simply says you don’t care. Men love it when we spend a little time looking good just for them. Date night is definitely the time to take your daily look and turn it up a notch.

Do keep it natural

Women often ask whether men prefer curls or straight hair. The easiest answer is that every man is different, but as a hairstylist, I often lean more toward the straighter side. Doing a simple at-home blowout is an easy way to polish up locks, but if you’re hair challenged, go get one done.

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Do you want to achieve that fresh out-of-the-salon look at home? Click here to learn how to master the basics of a blowout.

Don’t play with your hair!

For many women, nerves lead them to play with their hair. If you want to show your date you’re interested in him, a flirty flip or toss over the shoulder is all you need! Anything more is straight up annoying.

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Do show your face

Men often say they love it when their girl has her hair pulled back, no makeup on and is wearing sweatpants. I swear if this were really true, it would save us all millions of hours in our busy lives. But there is something to be said for the toned down look. If you’re feeling ultra-confident, pulling hair back can be perfect and leaves some element of surprise. A loose chignon is great for almost any date and outfit. Talk about being fast too!

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