Take it easy on yourself from Feb. 18 to March 18. This is when you are most likely to fall off that diet, max out the credit cards or go back to that guy you know is no good for you. We say that self-sabotage stems from having a poor self-image or a fear of success, but it’s actually more about comfort zones. It feels safer to be overweight, underpaid or saddled with a loser. Rest assured that these behavioral patterns are changing, but they take time. Right now it’s less about willpower and discipline, and more about reassurance and compassion.