Woman live blogs her rape ordeal
One extremely brave woman live-blogged her whole rape ordeal on social media to send an important message: don't be scared to speak out.
Amber Amour, 27, was in South Africa with friends when she alleges she was assaulted by a man in a shower at her hostel. The New Yorker, who is currently on a tour to promote her "Stop Rape. Educate" campaign, which she started after she was attacked in New York, made the decision to live-blog the entire thing to her 25,000 Instagram followers through a series of images and lengthy posts, which are at times difficult to read.
Amber claims she was raped by a "local South African man" called Shakir, when she returned to her hostel after a day out — her first since being ill with food poisoning for two days.
"Shakir followed me upstairs and said he was going to take a shower," she wrote on Instagram. "He invited me to join. I said yes because the water at my current hostel is pretty cold and after 2 days of being sick, I just really wanted a hot shower."
Amber went on to say that as soon as she entered the bathroom, Shakir forced her to her knees, and became increasingly violent even though she asked him to stop. "He lifted me up and put his penis in my vagina," she wrote. "I asked him to stop, again, as I began to cry. When he shoved it in my ass, that’s when I passed out."
"I have all those f**ked up feelings that we get after rape… shame, disgust, suffering," she continued. "I’m here, alone, and any DNA has been wiped away in the shower."
Amber's second post was shared when she was on her way to the hospital the following day, with an image of the Angel Cards she drew the previous night.
"Dealing with cops is tough and the rape kit is the last thing I want-- tools and metal instruments and combs all up in my private parts… (sic) But this is what I stand for," she wrote. "I tell you guys to speak up every single day and I know that I need to practice what I preach. It is so incredibly hard, tho, but having you all here for me makes all the difference. I know that this may not go anywhere and I know that I may face ridicule by the police but I will take a shot at 'justice' anyway."
The third harrowing post was an image of the rape kit and in the caption Amber thanked her supporters for their loving messages, which pushed her "to take action and to stand up for myself and for all rape survivors."
Responding to accusations from some people that Amber was somehow to blame for the attack, she posted: "No matter what a person does, it is not an invitation for rape. It doesn't matter if I kissed him. It doesn't matter if he was drunk. It doesn't matter if I said yes to a shower. I never said he could get violent with me. I never said he could make me bleed. I never said he could rape me. But still, that's how the scene went down. I don't need to explain myself but if you're wondering WHY I took a shower with him, it was written in the text, I'd been sick with food poisoning for 2 days and needed to sweat it out. My current place of residence has only cold water (third world problems are real!) and it seemed like a miracle to be offered a hot shower. That's not what he was there for though, because as soon as he got a chance, he threw me to the ground and had his way."
Six weeks after the alleged attack Amber has returned to South Africa to assist the police with their investigation. She says the man who raped her was arrested but has been released on bail. The case will continue on March 29.