You’re going to be sensitive to any command or directive you receive — even if it’s a polite request to pass the salt. It could even be argued that you are being overly sensitive. It would be a good idea to call time out and take a behind-the-scenes look at what’s going on. You may feel beholden to a spouse or client, and this could be what’s eating away at you. But if you’re beholden to this person, then who’s the one who put herself in this position in the first place? It may be time to redress the balance of power.