As a woman, I appreciate when a man tries to understand women’s rights, but the #ThingsFeministMenHaveSaidToMe hashtag proves just how much men still have to learn.
Have you ever been told by a man that he doesn’t believe in feminism because in his eyes both sexes are equal? Or perhaps he has some “brilliant” suggestions about how women can move forward… if only they did “this” or “that” differently? Right, well, Twitter has spoken, and women are using the hashtag to educate men on what feminism is not about.
“I just think men would respond to your work more positively if you…” #ThingsFeministMenHaveSaidToMe
— ashe dryden (@ashedryden) August 17, 2015
Dear men everywhere, if you believe in feminism, then you should not be telling women what needs change.
Thinking you have done more for women’s rights than women or that you have all the solutions to every problem really just makes us want to roll our eyes — *rolls eyes* — sorry, we couldn’t resist.
#ThingsFeministMenHaveSaidToMe It's okay for me to make sexist jokes because I *know* they're sexist.
— lil bones jones (@aimiekins) August 18, 2015
#ThingsFeministMenHaveSaidToMe I'm more supportive of your feminism than most men, but some of your feminist nonsense makes me really angry.
— Larissa (@LarissaBlokhuis) August 17, 2015
Sometimes men don’t even realize how terribly condescending they are being. Or that their “helpful” comments and suggestions are actually offensive.
"Sometimes I feel like women take sexism so personally, they can't see the issues clearly." Um.#ThingsFeministMenHaveSaidToMe
— Sam H. Escobar (@myhairisblue) August 18, 2015
Since when is feminism about male problems? Or what men feel?
— wicked crone (@queenfeminist) August 18, 2015
Men really don’t seem to understand the importance of the #freethenipple movement.
No, you do not understand feminism better than a woman. No matter how much you think you do.
#ThingsFeministMenHaveSaidToMe "I think your heart is in the right place but you make men feel like patriarchy is all our fault"
— mikayla (@mikaylaonline) August 18, 2015
Speaking about your own experiences or your view point is egotistical — and it’s not doing anything except massaging your ego.
I think it's really important that you make the movement more welcoming to men #ThingsFeministMenHaveSaidToMe
— H (@H_Bevs) August 18, 2015
Again. Really? Because feminism is all about what a man needs, right?
"I wish I was breastfeeding, so I had an excuse to eat anything I want." #ThingsFeministMenHaveSaidToMe
— ArielTroster (@ArielTroster) August 17, 2015
Yes sir, you’ve nailed it. Of course breastfeeding is all about the calories you can burn.
Thanks for trying, guys.