Somewhere around the age of 27, I finally realized that the only person responsible for my happiness was me. It was a freeing revelation. No longer did I have to wait for someone else to treat me kindly on the path to happiness — I could make the decision to treat myself kindly on my own.
The same is true for you. Simply by virtue of existing as a human woman with hopes, desires and needs, here are 20 of the things you deserve to treat yourself with as soon as you are ready to do so.
1. Soft toilet paper
Don’t laugh. I once asked for this as a birthday present when I was 5 years old. Soft toilet paper is an absolute must.
2. Toasting each day
Raise a glass of wine or sparkling water to at least one joyful occasion at the end of every day.
3. A nap
Just 20 minutes will lift your spirits, and it’s totally free.
4. Turning off the phone
No one needs to reach you that badly — and if they do, they’ll still figure out how to get in touch.
5. A morning mimosa
Sunday brunch, anyone? Lingering over a morning mimosa or flavored coffee and delicious croissant is the best way to indulge in a weekend morning.
Let it go. No one cares about your mistakes as much as you do, so don’t let them hold you captive.
7. Fresh makeup
Maybe it’s a touch of bronzer or a fun new eyeliner. Regardless, try to remember how fun, cheap and easy it is to play with a new look for no reason at all.
8. A walk outside
You have the time. If you don’t have the time, you can make the time. The sunshine will feel spectacular on your skin.
9. Breakfast in bed
It doesn’t matter if someone isn’t bringing it to you. You can whip together a fresh omelet and head back to bed for a slow-going morning with a rom-com or reruns of Frasier.
10. Coffee with a friend
You know, the kind of shared coffee where you go for the extra creamer and the extra time with your buddy.
11. Extra time to style your hair
Speaking of extra time, do you remember how great it felt when you got a real blowout? Re-create it at home for a perky style.
12. A single-use shirt or dress
That $7 rhinestone number from a bargain store might fall apart after one use, but isn’t that entirely the point?
13. Long, luxurious bath…
Put a few drops of lavender or chamomile oil into your suds to create something special.
14. …Or an afternoon skinny-dipping
If bath time isn’t your thing, find a secluded spot to take a dip in the buff. It’s so freeing!
15. A pedicure
Head to the salon for extra pampering, or do your own pedicure at home with a DIY exfoliation cream and a couple of sparkly shades of nail polish.
16. A bowl of fresh fruit
Either set out a bowl of apples for display, or chow down on a juicy serving of fresh strawberries, blueberries and cantaloupe. Just thinking about it makes my mouth water.
17. An evening to window-shop
Maybe you’re eyeballing a new pair of Kendra Scott earrings, or you’re just perusing. The freedom from responsibility and the opportunity to imagine is all that is required.
18. A new purse
It’s practical. Totally.
19. Date night away from the kids
Self-care isn’t possible without occasionally stepping away from your darling children.
20. Fresh flowers
I buy my own fresh flowers every week, because I don’t have to wait for a boyfriend or husband to make my house look like springtime.
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