Likes drinking pina coladas and getting caught in the rain? Sigh! Scratch that and add looking for Prince Charming, frogs need not apply. No, that doesn’t sound right either. Writing a good online dating profile can be a nightmare, so we’ve asked the experts at RSVP, Australia’s number one dating website, for advice on how to write a successful profile.
Expert advice on writing dating profiles
A picture is worth a thousand words
92 per cent of RSVP users search for profiles with photos and you are likely to attract more hits if you provide a recent photo, preferably one where you are happy and smiling. People want to see your face so don’t hide behind big hats and sunglasses. Make sure your photo isn’t blurry or pixelated, is G-rated and be sure to crop out any other people. According to RSVP‘s spokesperson, Jayne Andrews, one of the biggest mistakes people make when creating an online profile is using outdated photos. “If there’s a big discrepancy between your profile picture and your current appearance, your date won’t trust you.”
Speak from the heart
Remember, your profile is not a CV and you are not applying for a job. When you’re writing, imagine it’s a conversation with a new best friend. Keeping the tone of your online profile light and friendly will make you sound more approachable. Be honest, most RSVP users would prefer someone who tells the truth, over someone who sounds perfect onscreen.
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Avoid using cliches
Cliches are tired and unoriginal, so writing “I’m looking for that special someone” or “I work hard and play hard”, is just rehashing the same old boring lines which don’t really say anything startling. Write about what you do when you are working hard or describe the special person you are looking for.
Nobody likes a show-off
Be careful of bragging because you may come across as conceited. Instead of writing “I’m drop-dead gorgeous and get mistaken for Mila Kunis”, show it with a profile picture. You might be hilarious, but demonstrate it in your profile through your writing style
Men are naturally attracted to women with happy dispositions. You don’t have to write like you’re on Prozac, but keep it light. There’s no need to go into detail about being screwed over by your ex or a list of health problems which looks more like a shopping list for a family of eight.
This is RSVP’s top tip: “When you write your profile, you want to have a clear idea of the type of people you want to attract. The best advice is to be specific about what type of person you are and your outlook on life — that way you are likely to attract interest from likeminded people.”
Never apologise for online dating
Adding “I don’t normally resort to online dating” or “I can’t believe I’m on here” to your profile will make potential suitors feel like you are judging them for being online. It’s not something to be embarrassed about.
Example of a good online dating profile
I don’t need a man to complete me but I wouldn’t mind one to share my life with. You won’t get me with hello, but if you can make me laugh I’m yours.
Nothing much phases me, I tend to go with the flow, some would call me fun-loving. I love exploring the great outdoors and nothing much scares me. Well, unless you count riding the Tower of Terror at Dreamworld.
I’m a real family girl. Every Friday night we catch up for dinner and quite often head up to Noosa and go camping by the beach.
My ideal first date would be something fun and adrenalin-fuelled, as there is nothing like being thrown into a scary situation to gauge how a person reacts. Nothing as dangerous as sky-diving, but maybe white water rafting or hiring a Jet Ski would be fun.
I like guys who are decisive and self-assured, who have their own opinions and don’t just automatically agree with everything I say. I want you to be able to think for yourself. Because I am an active person, and enjoy sports, you’ll need to have a bit of get up and go. I’m not looking for someone who wants to spend all weekend inside with the curtains drawn watching cricket, I’d rather be out there playing it.
When I’m not at work, I go to body combat classes, do Tai Chi, play netball and love kite surfing.
I’ve been single for just over a year and I’m ready to meet lots of new people and see what happens. If you’re on the same path and enjoy getting out there, it would be great to hear from you sometime.
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