Whether or not you believe in feng shui, the design aesthetic that accompanies it (sparse, simple and warm) is a look that might appeal to you if you’re looking to redecorate. If you’re looking to improve or bolster your sex life, this is the philosophical design technique for you. Read on for 10 simple tips to get your sexy on, feng shui style.
1. Warm colors
Red, soft blue, pink or peach — these are the colors you want to dominate your space. Patterns and prints are fun and eye-catching, but in the feng shui world, warm colors (red in particular) stoke the sensual energy within all of us. Treating yourself to new sheets, drapes or even a few scented candles is a great place to start.
2. Soft, clean bed
While we’re talking about bedding, let’s talk about yours a little bit more. If you want to get freaky in the sack, according to feng shui, a large part of making that happen is intention. A clean, soft, comfortable and well-made bed invites someone to climb in — someone other than you. Think of your bed as the blank canvas inviting sensuality into your life.
3. Sandalwood and jasmine
Consider buying a midrange aroma diffuser. The soft light will warm a room, and adding a few drops of essential oils like sandalwood and jasmine unblocks chi and helps settle the mind and stimulate the body. Experiment with oil combinations to find what works best for you and your partner.
4. Red pen, silver box, 49 days
This feng shui ritual is perfect for those hoping to summon a sexual partner into their lives. Write down the qualities you’re looking for in your next bed mate on paper with a red pen. Place that paper in a silver box, and place that box in your bedroom. Leave it there for 49 days. This simple ceremony will help open your heart and bring you focus and intention toward inviting love into your life. Plus, the smooth, soft lines of a basic silver box on a table or dresser will definitely be pleasing to look at.
In feng shui, elephants represent ushering in the wishes of your heart. Invest in a few cute elephant statues or figurines, even a fun framed print, and you are making it clear to the universe that you are present with your wishes and desires. Nothing is sexier than that.
6. Keep it clear under the bed
Underneath the bed is one of the most popular places to store items and keep them out of sight and out of mind. Unfortunately, keeping junk under your bed blocks energy and keeps you from being focused on yourself, your body and your partner. If you have to store things under your bed, they should only be comforting items like surplus bedding or soft winter clothing.
7. Smaller bed
We’re not saying go for a twin bed or anything like that, but maybe ditch your king for a queen. The closer you are to your partner, the greater the connection, and the greater the connection, the better chance you have for intimacy that will increase over time.
8. Ditch ceiling fans
It might seem counterintuitive, since so many people love the gentle flow of air overhead, but in feng shui, overhead ceiling fans are aggressively cutting the energy in the room, which apparently makes for a more tumultuous and stressful environment. If you must have a fan, put it to one side.
9. Cut back on clutter
A clean space equals a clear mind. Keeping your mind and heart clear are essential to connecting with your partner in bed. If you have excess knickknacks or even framed photographs, why not try moving them to another shared space and keep your bedroom a simple and spare love nest?
10. Space on either side of the bed
This is another way having a smaller bed can make for a better feng shui-ed space for sexiness. Be sure to position your bed in the room with enough room on either side of it for each partner to comfortably access the bed. This allows energy and space for partnership, which is essential in feng shui.