Friendships are an important part of childhood, and play is a great way to get those friendships started.
Just because you put two kids together doesn’t mean they’ll play together. Don’t be surprised if they take their toys and retreat to a corner. Read on for tips about how to help them learn to play together and make friends in the process.
Turn off the TV
If you’re having a play date at home, switch the television off before the play begins. If it’s on, the kids will probably zone out to whatever’s on instead of paying attention to each other.
Time it right
Schedule play times for early in the morning or right after naps. If you get them together when they’re tired or hungry, they’ll be grumpy and ready to fight, not play.
Pick the right toys
If you want kids to play together, give them toys that encourage group play. Give them role-playing toys such as dress-up clothes, kitchen toys, baby dolls and people or animal figurines. If you hand out coloring books and books, they’ll retreat to their own area and play alone.
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Keep it small
Avoid putting together large groups of kids. In those situations, fights break out and someone always gets left out. Try to keep groups small, at least while children are still learning to play together. Two kids make the perfect play group!
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Pair them well
It’s tempting to pair your child with your BFF’s kid and assume they’ll get along perfectly. It takes a lot more than that to get small children to get along. Two strong personalities will almost always clash, and two withdrawn children probably won’t interact at all. Pair an outgoing child with a shy one for a play date that will work.
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Head off aggression
Aggressive behavior is bound to happen, especially when someone has a toy that someone else wants. Big fights can lead to total meltdowns, and that’s usually all it takes to end a great play date. Keep an eye out for situations like this and head them off before they get too severe. Intervene by bringing their attention to something else, or talking to the child that wants the toy while the other child is playing with it. Assure her she can have the toy when her friend is done with it.
If you’re looking for kids to play with, try places such as local parks and children’s museums, as well as kids’ areas at the local mall!