The art of bragging

Dec 11, 2009 at 1:54 p.m. ET

We don't know the exact reasons and science, but men are still getting paid more than women on average -- and they still seem to get promoted more often. Regardless of rhyme or reason, we're peeved. Maybe it's because we're not as good about bragging -- and that must stop this year, ladies! Here's how to toot your own horn, get noticed, get a great job and/or get promoted.

Proud Businesswoman

"Women aren't always comfortable tooting their own horns, but we must," says Cari Vollmer, founder of "In order to be comfortable doing so, we have to first be clear on the value we offer the company." Cari suggests that you make a list of all of the ways you serve your company -- with intangible and tangible items. "For example, [mention] that you are recognized over and over again for boosting employee morale, as well as increasing sales by..." she explains.

Now keep bragging, sister. Don't know how? These experts in success have ideas.

Own it

Tamara Gant knows how to get ahead. In fact, she co-hosts a popular radio show on 97.3 FM the Coast called "Those Two Girls in the Morning" with Julie Guy. "Always let someone who is close to the boss know that [whatever the success was] was your bright idea, like the secretary or whomever [your boss] goes out to lunch with every day," she advises. "Send an e-mail to the boss, along with everyone else, congratulating them on how great a job this 'bright idea' was (that you came up with) and how it turned out great for the company."

Hint away

Julie, Tamara's co-host has some thoughts on the art of bragging, as well. "In casual conversation (with several higher ups listening), mention how late you've been working and how you've been able to get so much done," she suggests. "Have a close co-worker sing your praises in an email that CCs everyone who matters in the company (and of course, offer to do the same for them when needed)."

Drop it like it's hot

Many can't stand Randy Jackson of American Idol for being a mega-name-dropper. But we think that might be one of the reasons he has gotten this far. "Bragging at work is like dropping names -- it rarely comes off as sophisticated, but it always works," says Steve Siebold, author of 177 Mental Toughness Secrets of the World Class. Bosses want to see how you handle yourself under pressure. Be tough enough to assert yourself, says Siebold. Have an opinion and stand behind it no matter how much criticism you get. "[Bosses], also be watching to see how you respond to your critics who attack you for bragging," Siebold adds. "Never, ever show your superiors that your colleagues' petty remarks bother or irritate you in any way. Show them you're so far above that level of thinking that you're able to completely ignore it."

Be yourself

At the end of the day, just be you. You know what you bring to the table. If you do your job and do it well, this will radiate -- just don't be shy about it. "Let your work ethic, positive attitude and confidence [radiate]," says Julie. You are the best person for this job, so let that shine through, she adds. "It will be apparent to everyone that you are a fabulous employee."