32 Ways to beat the Valentine's Day blues
Being single on Valentine's Day isn't so bad. Here's a single girl's guide to beating the Valentine blues.
You don't have a date on Valentine's Day. Boo hoo! Just kidding – it's no big deal. It's just like any other day. The only difference is, waiting for a table at a restaurant will drive you insane, you can buy candied hearts for cheap at drug stores, and you may just feel a little down that you're dateless. But fret no more because you're just as fabulous as those attached folks out on dates that night. In fact, you may even be more awesome than they are. Is that not enough to cheer you up? Read on for 32 ways to beat the Valentine's Day blues...
Make it a girl's day. Go out to lunch with your girlfriends, have a cup of coffee and chit-chat bout boys, or do dinner with your other single gal pals. Valentine's Day shouldn't only be about couples – it should be about love of all kinds. And what better to celebrate than the love you have for your pals.
2. Pay a visit to the spa. We can all use a day of relaxation. Go to your local day spa, get a massage, sit in a whirlpool or sauna, and get pampered. After all, you deserve it.
3. Forget what day it is. Hide the calendar, flip it to March, or just don't look. Valentine's Day is just like any other day. Just because Hallmark sells those cards with hearts on them for February 14, doesn't mean you have to participate.
4. Hang out with family. This seems to be a great retreat to any depressing occasion that you don't want to or can't partake in. Sitting on mom and dad's couch, for instance, will be so comforting. Top it off with a cup of cocoa and you'll just reminisce about the times you were young and could care less for Valentine's.
5. Find a last-minute date. Resurrect some names from you little black book and set up a date. It doesn't have to be a "Valentine's Day" date, of course. Just call your crush and ask if he's busy. If he isn't, offer up a cup of coffee – that's so not Valentine's Day-like, but at least you have something to occupy you for the night.
6. Pig out. Go to your local supermarket and get your favorite snacks. Let yourself have all the things you usually feel guilty consuming, and this time, don't feel the least bit guilty. Just indulge!
7. Go to happy hour. Odds are some of your coworkers aren't going out either. Not everyone is taken, and beyond that, not everyone celebrates the commercial holiday. Plan a get-together over the weekend with who's available and have some martinis.
8. Pick your best guy friend and make him take you out. Yes, I'm suggesting that you fake it. If you don't have a man at the moment, use a boyfriend doppelganger. You can still hit the restaurant and bars for the fun Valentine's Day specials, and no one will be the wiser.
9. Buy a new wardrobe. Retail therapy always saves the day, doesn't it? Get yourself to a mall and buy some hot new clothes. That way, when you do have a date, you'll be prepared and oh-so-sexy.
Watch SoapNet. Nothing beats lonely Saturday nights than watching the Brenda years and old episodes of "General Hospital." Not only will you feel good that these characters have lives way more messed up than yours will ever be, some eye candy like Dylan McKay will cheer you up in no time.
11. Remind yourself that many couples are unhappy. Valentines, schmalentines – did you ever stop to think that a lot of these men and women out during the holiday may have lots of problems? Just because they're eating a meal together on February 14, doesn't mean they're happier than you. In fact, some are probably quite the opposite.
12. Remember that being single is fabulous. Ahhh, it's the old age saying that us single gals say to ourselves when we're home on Fridays dateless. But wait, being single IS fabulous! There's no lying there. Who wouldn't want the paragon of choice and the endless opportunities? The world is your oyster.
13. Have a "Sex and the City" marathon. It's good to watch Carrie Bradshaw and friends on a holiday like Valentine's Day because you can celebrate your singledom like the girls on the show. Who needs men when you have fabulous shoes and friends, Carrie would say.
14. Eat some ice cream. No, it doesn't make you sad and pathetic. It makes you awesome because you can handle the sugar and you deserve it. And don't get some sugar-free sorbet. Get the really good stuff – cookies and cream, mint chocolate chip, or anything from Cold Stone.
15. Be zen. You can meditate, do some yoga, or just sit in silence smiling. Refining your mind and tuning into yourself is just what you need.
16. Make yourself hot and hit a bar solo. Who says you can't go out by yourself on Valentine's Day? Make yourself look adorable, step out of your house, and check out the local bar. Sit at the bar, chat with the cute bartender, or meet someone new. Anything is possible.
17. Read countless fashion magazines and strategize for your spring wardrobe. You can make Valentine's Day a productive one by planning what you're going to wear when spring hits. It's only a month or so away!
18. Throw an anti-Valentine's Day party. Invite all of your friends who are against the Hallmark holiday over to your house. Serve drinks like It's-Great-Being-Single martinis and Solo-and-Fabulous margaritas.
19. Give yourself a makeover. Maybe it's not Valentine's you have an issue with. Perhaps it's you? Not to make you feel bad, but maybe all you need is a little bit of a revival? Plan for a new look. Get a haircut, style yourself anew, and change things up.
Chat with other lonely friends online. Your computer is your friend. Turn it on and see who else is home on
Valentine's Day. It's always nice to know you're not the only lonely heart home. You're not alone!
21. Join Match.com. You may not have a date this year, but you can start preparing for next year. Start online dating to broaden your options. Plus, you never know, maybe you'll have a date the same night so you won't be alone on Valentine's after all.
22. Hit the gym. Since exercising releases endorphins, working out can only cheer you up. Perhaps there will be a cute boy at the gym without a Valentine's Day date, too. You can ask him to go out with you for a smoothie after your workout.
23. Pleasure yourself. Who needs a man when you have fun toys and videos at your disposal.
24. Go to a local restaurant with a girlfriend and laugh at the couples who are sitting in awkward silences. Forced romanticism is never fun, and odds are a lot of these men were dragged by their ears to this meal.
25. Eat chocolate. It has been known to cheer women up, which is why so many of them turn to it during times of turmoil. Indulge in a box of truffles or a yummy candy bar. My personal favorite are Hershey Kisses. What's yours?
26. Throw a slumber party. Go back to the time in your life where you and our friends would giggle about boys, not cry about them. On Valentine's Day, get together with your BFFs and have some fun. From playing silly games like Truth or Dare to making s'mores, this will prove to be more fun than an awkward dinner with a man you're lukewarm for.
27. Don't care. It's only a day. It'll be over in no time. Just let it pass by and try not to think about it one bit.
28. Have a fling. Enough said.
29. Stage a fashion show and photo shoot. It's good to feel pretty every now and then even if you're not going anywhere special. Beautify, put on something hot, and take pictures of yourself. It sound egotistical, I know, but you'll feel oh-so-fabulous afterwards. You can even upload your favorite shots to your Facebook or Myspace. That'll show the rest of the world that you could care less for Valentine's Day.
30. Read a great book. "Eat Pray Love" is my personal favorite. Anytime I am down about not having found the "right one" yet, I read it and it always changes my perspective. Find an inspiring book that will get you back to down-to-earth thoughts that have nothing to do with cheesy stuff with hearts on them and forced dating.
31. Book a trip. Valentine's is just a day, but if you book a trip, you can look forward to days of fun away with friends, solo or with family. That's way better than any day with candied hearts.
32. Enjoy yourself. No matter what you do on this day – or any day for that matter – always enjoy yourself. You may not have that "other half" that attached people have, but does that mean your life is any less fabulous? No way. To each their own, and love your life.