Not every sexual experience is going to be off the charts. That would be great, but in reality, sex doesn’t always go exactly like you want it to. But before you resign yourself to being bored between the sheets, a few small but significant changes can make a huge difference when it comes to how satisfied you are in bed.
Learn what you like
The key to great sex is knowing what you like, which means doing some solo experimentation to truly understand what turns you on. If you’re comfortable enough with your guy, then you can also ask him to help. Try different positions, different times during the day and spend more time figuring out what works best for your body. It might mean spending some extra time between the sheets and trading quickies for longer sex sessions, but the more you learn about what makes you feel good, the better sex will be for you on a regular basis.
Love your body
Sexual satisfaction goes down drastically when you have low body confidence. If you focus more on what he thinks of your naked body than on actually enjoying yourself, you’re not going to have a good time in bed. Trade negative thoughts about how you look for positive affirmations. Focus on feeling good about your body and you’ll be much more apt to enjoy sex.
Stay in the moment
It might seem obvious, but to enjoy sex to the fullest, you have to be thinking about the sex you’re having. Letting your mind linger on what you need to do later, how messy the house is, whether or not your presentation for work tomorrow is good enough or whether he’s having a good time just means you aren’t in the moment. One of the best ways to ensure sexual satisfaction is to focus on exactly what’s happing — and nothing else.
Communicate your needs
Love sex in the afternoon, but not when you’re trying to go to sleep? Hate a certain position that your partner loves? Want more foreplay? If you want your sex life to improve, you have to communicate what you want (and what you don’t). You’ll likely notice a big difference in your enjoyment once you’ve shared the things that make you more likely to want to hop in the sack.