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How to get the spark back this summer

Summer is the perfect time to kick your relationship up a few notches. The days are long and the nights are warm — what could be better?

Romantic couple in pool

If you feel like your twosome could use a wake-up call, we have some strategies that are guaranteed to rev things up!

Get out of town

Nothing revs up a stalled relationship like a change of scenery. This summer, why not plan a weekend getaway (or a week away if you can swing it) to really reconnect and get back that missing spark? Being somewhere different allows for fresh discussion, more honesty and a lot more fun than doing the same old thing. Whether you grab a last-minute deal to the Caribbean (cheap in the off-season), or spend the weekend at a rented cabin, being away together can go a long way to reigniting your chemistry.

Take on a project

Setting a goal together, whether it’s to learn Spanish (and then go to Spain), repaint the bedroom or volunteer your time as a team, joining forces is a great way to boost your bond. Sit down and figure out what you’d both like to accomplish (from losing weight to running a half-marathon) and tackle your project together. Not only will you be more likely to accomplish your goal if you work together, but it will give you something to bond over.

Eke out more alone time

If you’ve been feeling farther apart lately, it may be due to not spending enough time together, away from distractions. Watching TV while he checks his email, or eating dinner together, but only talking about stressful topics (mortgage, chores that haven’t been done) doesn’t count as quality time. So rather than have your time together be either argument-inducing or totally silent, find time to be alone together in a meaningful way. Go for a walk (without your phones), head to a café for a post-dinner catch-up or get a babysitter and go do dinner — whatever you need to do to spend more quality time as a couple.

Embrace the season

Summer is all about having fun — embrace it! Have a picnic in the park, invite all your friends over for a big BBQ or pool party, go camping, hiking or biking and hit the beach. The more you find ways to have fun together, the stronger your relationship will be.

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