Has the green-eyed monster been rearing its ugly head in your relationship? If so, we have some advice that may help you rein in your jealous streak.
We know it can be hard to develop trust, especially if you’ve been burned in the past, but jealousy can ruin relationships.
Communicate with your partner
If you’re starting to lose control of your feelings of jealousy and can’t help but always feel a bit paranoid about your partner, it’s time to talk it through. If there’s no real reason for you to be jealous (e.g. he isn’t acting suspicious or sneaking around, he’s not getting too cozy with a female co-worker), then you just need to work on developing trust, and the only way to do that is by communicating with your partner.
Tell him how you’re feeling and find a way to work together to move past any trust issues you have. As long as he knows you’re making an effort to work through your jealousy, he’ll be less likely to get frustrated by it.
Every phone call, Facebook post, tweet and text can be read into, but the more assumptions you make about what your partner is doing, the worse your jealousy spiral is going to get. It’s so easy to assume that the girl that posted on his wall wants to break the two of you up, or his meeting with a female client was more flirty than professional, but those assumptions are just going to drive you both crazy. Unless you have solid evidence that you have a reason to be jealous, curb your habit of assuming every move he makes is one towards another woman.
Having some interests and friends separate from your partner is another good way to curb unwarranted feelings of jealousy. Distract yourself by reconnecting with old friends, taking a class or trying out a spot or activity you’ve always been curious about. Feelings of jealousy can often stem from believing that your significant other is all you have. But that’s not true. You have friends, family and a life outside of your relationship.