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Is it time to start dating against-type?

We all have a type – someone we look for as we navigate the dating pool in hopes of finding a great guy. But it’s not always wise to steadfastly stick to your type.

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There are some reasons it’s a good idea to date someone who goes against who you usually choose. Here are the top three.

Your type has changed – and you don’t know it

Sometimes we decide who we should be with and discount the fact that we change and evolve over the years (or even months). Who you thought you should be dating might have been right last year, but this year, with changes in your personality, lifestyle and goals, someone else from a different type could be a better match. For example, think about who you dated 10 years ago and who you date now. There’s likely a fairly significant difference. Dating outside our pre-conceived type may remind us that what we thought we needed in a man is no longer true.

You could meet someone great

Automatically dismissing someone because they don’t fit into your type could mean you’re missing out on meeting someone great. You may not normally look twice at a suit-wearing financial planner, but he could be closer to your type than you realize. Maybe he actually shares your passion for hiking or weekend camping trips. Just because he looks a certain way or even presents himself a certain way on first meeting doesn’t mean he’s the type you think he is. That three-piece suit might just be part of his day job and not a good representation of his whole personality. Even though he’s not your type, try digging deeper. People are complicated.

You need to expand your dating circle

Ruling out certain types of people based on the wrong reasons can really limit your options. Just because the first guy who broke your heart was a musician doesn’t mean every musician should be off your dating radar. Or if your family has always told you to date someone with an office job and you feel they’re controlling and meddling, you may have decided long ago your type is anything but what they suggest. This type of thinking doesn’t serve you well. You may bypass a potential match simply because he happens to be a type you previously ruled out.

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