As much as we love our moms, it’s not always easy to see eye to eye, but maintaining a strong relationship with the woman who raised you is important. One of the best ways to do that is to work on becoming better friends. We have some tips on how to do just that.
Just in time for Mother’s Day, become better friends with your mom!
Listen to her
The first step in improving your relationship with mom (and in turn becoming better friends) is to become a better listener. It’s so easy to gloss over what she says, pretend to listen as she tells you about why your sister should reconsider her latest boyfriend or the newest diet she and your father are trying. But no matter what she’s talking about, make an effort to actively listen. Ask questions, offer opinions and otherwise let her know you’re present and she can count on you to be a sounding board if she needs it. The more you listen, the more connected you’ll become.
Real women speak: “For the longest time, especially when I was in my late teens and early 20s I didn’t really listen to my mom, didn’t know what she was about. Now that I’m older, I’m finding she has a lot of really interesting things to say!” Kayla, 37, from Chicago
We all have moments where we want to roll our eyes at something Mom is saying (or wearing), but let’s face it — we all have quirks, and there are likely things you do that drive your mom nuts. Boost your bond and become better friends by being more accepting of your mother. The time you spend together will be much more relaxed and a lot more enjoyable.
Real women speak: “I used to think my mom was super-weird, especially when I was younger, and get really annoyed with her about the littlest things. But I’ve come to realize that just caused tension between us. She still does stuff that annoys me, but the more I look past it, the better time I have with her.” Stephanie, 26, from Toronto, Canada
Make time for her
The only way you’re going to become better friends with your mom is if you make time for her. We know you’re busy, but the more effort you make to spend one-on-one time with Mom outside of obligatory family dinners, the closer you’ll become.
Real women speak: “My mom and I started going on a weekly brunch date. Before that I only really saw her, like, once a month or often less. But once we started hanging out more, I really feel like I got to see a whole new side of her. It’s been really cool.” Brittney, 29, from Los Angeles