Top dating lessons you need now

Even the most outgoing among us can get in a dating rut and start to feel like crawling into bed and staying there. But getting back into the dating game after a string of duds is much less daunting than you might think. Find out how to break through your dating dry spell with these top dating tips and lessons.

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Take time for yourself

Rather than jumping right back into the dating pool after being burned one too many times, you need to make sure you’ve had adequate time for yourself and enough time to figure out what you really want.

Finding Mr. Right takes time and patience. If you don’t take time for yourself, you run the risk of making rash decisions and ending up in a relationship that isn’t working (see Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries). Make a list of traits you want in a guy and a list of what you don’t, and use that as your jumping off point for a renewed dating experience.

Do what you like

Many of the happiest couples have similar interests and the best way to find someone like-minded is to do what you enjoy. Make a list of the things you like to do and then figure out events, times and places you can participate. Go in with a smile and an open mind and make some new friends. You never know who might end up being more than a friend.

If you like music, check out a local band or a concert nearby. If you find someone you’d like to talk to, talk to them about the music as an easy conversation starter. If doing things with your hands is more up your alley, volunteer with an organization like Habitat for Humanity. Not only will you be helping someone else, you just might meet someone interesting on the job.

Open your mind

At this point, you probably have an idea of what you would like (and what you wouldn’t) in a partner, but don’t let your list hold you back. Maybe some of your wants are superficial — you like blondes or athletes or perhaps only guys who are tall. But do yourself a favor and drop the pickier points on your list. Replace them with a list of qualities you might desire in a partner, such as kindness, humor, thoughtfulness or outgoing personality.

The next time you meet someone who may not match your list of ideal physical characteristics, think back to your list of qualities and give him a chance. You never know, after a few dates you might have more of a connection than you originally thought possible.

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