While you may think that the process of winning us over simply extends to how tight-fitting the dress you’re wearing is, you’ll be pleased to know that there are more comfortable ways to get us to hang from your every word. Here are seven top tips to win us over – now prepare yourself for a tidal wave of dinner reservations.
Let your hair down
We like a girl who knows how to have fun, and while bursting into an impromptu rendition of the Macarena in the middle of the theater may be a bit over the top, joining us for a few drinks and dancing into the wee hours of the morning will surely earn you a few bonus points.
We want to impress you, but it’s difficult to regale you with tales of our business exploits if you never ask about them. Ask us questions and then at least try to appear interested when we answer them – even if we are rambling on about reports and spreadsheets.
Get to know his friends
Male friends can be just as judgmental as female friends, so if you don’t want to be known as the Yoko Ono to our John Lennon, start hanging out with our social circle.
Appreciate his generosity
You expect us to foot the bill, but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t thank us when we do. Showing appreciation for our kind gestures will only make us want to pull out our wallets more often.
While it may be a little intimidating to explain to us that in the future you see yourself with four children and an army of cats, we appreciate a girl who is upfront about her feelings and doesn’t mess around. Sure, playing hard to get is alluring, but being open with us is what makes us want to stay for the long haul.
Understand his need for “guy time”
It’s early on in our fledgling relationship, but just because we’re spending the weekend with our buddies doesn’t mean that we’ve already grown bored of you. By allowing us our personal space, you’re ensuring that we never feel smothered and that our friends start referring to you as a “cool girlfriend.”
Be comfortable with him
Showing that you’re comfortable in our presence doesn’t necessarily mean that you should show us that disgusting party trick you picked up in college, but it does mean that it’s OK to let your guard down and show us your goofy side. But seriously, no one wants to watch you belch the alphabet.
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