Relationships aren’t always easy. And unfortunately, men don’t always communicate their feelings that well. For those times when you feel like he’s shutting you out, follow these tips to find out if your relationship is on the rocks or if something else is on his mind.
What to say when you’re feeling ignored
The first thing to remember is that sometimes his behavior isn’t a reflection of you or your relationship. If he’s been ignoring you for a couple days, he could be upset about something at work, mad that the Yankees lost or any number of things that have absolutely nothing to do with you. If you don’t have any idea what’s wrong, don’t accuse him of neglecting you. Instead, ask him if he has something on his mind or if something is bothering him. You might get your answer right away. However, if he doesn’t open up and still seems to be ignoring you, approach him with actions — not words — to get to the bottom of it.
What to do when you’re feeling ignored
Give him some space. If you have been spending plenty of time together lately, he might just need a little break. That doesn’t mean he is unhappy or that he’s cheating on you. Even when you are in a serious relationship, you should still spend time independently doing the things you enjoy. The first thing you should do if you think he’s ignoring you is go out and do something on your own. A little time apart could do both of you some good. It will also show him that you aren’t being needy or clingy.
If you think a more serious issue is looming, other than just needing some space, start with sex. Okay, it actually doesn’t have to be sex from the get-go, but intimacy is a good way to figure out if he’s really ignoring you or if he’s upset with you. Try to get close and see how he reacts to your advances.
What to avoid when you’re feeling ignored
More important than what you should say or do are the things you should avoid when you are feeling ignored.
- Don’t whine, nag or cry.
- Don’t accuse him of cheating on you.
- Don’t call or text him repeatedly, demanding answers.
- Don’t ask “What’s wrong?” over and over.