What’s expected of a sugar baby in a quid pro quo relationship with an older, generous man? Brandon Wade, founder and CEO of SeekingArrangement.com, gave us his top five rules for aspiring sugar babies looking to make the most of a sugar baby/sugar daddy setup.
Brandon Wade’s sugar baby/sugar daddy hookup website, SeekingArrangement.com, has garnered a lot of attention recently — much of it negative. Talking heads from Star Jones to college professors have suggested that the site facilitates prostitution. (Legally, it does not.) Others say the site merely gives a name and face to what’s already been happening for decades.
So what should an aspiring sugar baby expect? We asked Wade for some tips for women thinking about dipping their toes into the sugar lifestyle. He outlined five rules that he thinks all sugar babies should follow:
BRANDON WADE’S TOP FIVE RULES FOR SUGAR BABIES
“Don’t Forget How Hot and How Fun You Are!”
Wade says: “Being a sugar baby is an opportunity to be a different kind of ‘you.’ Before starting your sugar journey, it’s wise to get to know your sugar-self. While this might sound a little vague, it’s actually quite simple. As a sugar baby, you are undoubtedly hot, unquestionably fun and endlessly intriguing. In your everyday life, you might not think of yourself to be such a jewel while you’re doing dishes that your roommates left for you, but as a sugar baby, every imperfection is part of your perfection, and if you can’t convince yourself of that, you’ll definitely need to learn how to in order to have a successful sugar life. And of course, always think of ways to add value to the lives of those around you, especially your sugar daddy’s.”
“Don’t Skip a Beat When You’re Given a Treat”
Wade says: “As a sugar baby, you’re the beneficiary in financially compensated relationships with men who, by virtue of their being sugar daddies, should have no problem whatsoever with providing the benefits you seek. You may have been brought up to resist being spoiled or pampered and taught that the only time you can be given a gift is when you’ve worked for it. You might find that when presented with a very expensive gift or a large sum of money, you feel anxious and even guilty about accepting it. However, as a sugar baby, you must realize that part of your ‘role’ in an arrangement is to graciously accept the benefits from your sugar daddy. A sugar daddy wouldn’t be one if he couldn’t handle the idea of having a gorgeous, younger companion as his arm candy and special someone. In the same sense, a sugar baby wouldn’t be a sugar baby if she’s not comfortable with being given the finer things in life without having to work her butt off for it.”
“Keep Your Emotions (and Expectations) in Sugar-Check”
Wade says: “Don’t forget that as a sugar baby, part of what you offer is a drama-free, simple and fun experience whenever you are with your sugar daddy. One of the main reasons sugar daddies seek sugar babies is to find someone to help them take the stress away. Keep your emotional expectations in check. Don’t slip into being emotionally dependent on your sugar daddy who isn’t ready for a long-term commitment. Of course, this isn’t always easy, especially if your sugar daddy slips up and drops the ‘L’ (love) bomb on you after a night of one too many drinks or if he’s just too irresistibly good in bed.”
“Be Brutally Honest”
Wade says: “The best sugar daddy and sugar baby relationships form out of brutal honesty. Honesty allows both people to know exactly what they are getting into, what to expect from the other person and what may be expected of them. There shouldn’t be any beating around the bush here. So as you are filling out your online profile, be sure to write about all your positive qualities as well as your negative ones. If you snore at night or if you are addicted to shopping, say so. While they may not all be positive qualities, there will always be someone out there who will accept you for who you are.”
“Always Be On Your Guard”
Wade says: “The real world can be a scary place, so while you are searching for a sugar daddy, always remember there are bad apples among the good. When using an online sugar dating website, such as SeekingArrangement.com or any other public forum, remember to be careful and to verify all potential sugar daddies you may or may not meet. On SeekingArrangement.com, some members have been verified and certified, but for those who aren’t certified, the responsibilities fall on the sugar baby to check and double check that a potential sugar daddy is telling the truth. “