Not many of us are lucky enough to find true love right out of the gate. Meeting the person with whom you’re meant to spend the rest of your life takes time and maturity — and chances are you will go through more than a few not-quite-right guys. We’ve put together a list of the most common types of guys women date before meeting Mr. Right.
Who you’ll date before The One…
The angsty loner
Many women meet Bachelor Number One when they’re in high school or college. He’s usually a little older and he’s in a band, or maybe he’s an artist. He keeps to himself, but he seems like the coolest guy you’ve ever met. He writes poetry and reads philosophy. For the first little while, you’re enamored by how smart and worldly he is compared to guys your own age.
Pros: You feel cool and interesting just being around him. He’s pretty sexy in that dark, brooding kind of way, and he lets you wear his perfectly beaten-up leather jacket.
Cons: He’s actually pretty immature. Everything you do is on his terms, and he blames the “establishment” for everything.
The good-on-paper guy
This guy has all the attributes of a guy you can and should bring home to Mom, but something is missing. He’s usually a nice guy with a well paying job. He owns property and a dog, and just wants to make you happy. He cooks, cleans and reminds you to call your mother, but still, you aren’t completely certain he’s the guy for you.
Pros: He will drive you or pick you up from anywhere. Your mom loves him. He always has a stocked fridge and clean towels, and his dog is pretty cute.
Cons: He’s actually a little bit boring. He lectures you about finances and wonders why you’re not more serious about investing. In truth, he reminds you a little of your dad.
The jerk or “bad boy”
You wouldn’t think any smart, sane woman would fall for a guy who turns out to a be a jerk, but we all do it. This is the guy with a bit of an edge. You know deep down that he isn’t right for you, but you are very attracted to him — and the sex… well, le’ts just say you’re not complaining about it. There is passion, but not a whole lot of anything else or any hope of moving the relationship forward. He doesn’t show affection, and in the end, causes more heartache than he’s worth.
Pros: Great sex, lots of passion, initial excitement
Cons: He never tells you he loves you. When you suggest moving in together, he laughs. He is emotionally unavailable.
The one who won’t commit
We usually meet this guy shortly before we meet The One. The guy who won’t commit starts off very promising. The relationship has passion and intrigue, as well as camaraderie and friendship. You can have great sex and then a great conversation. You feel alive and in love. When the time comes to move in together or talk about marriage, however, he freaks out and eventually has to leave.
Pros: Great guy, almost Mr. Right
Cons: Can’t commit despite your best intentions
We make no promises that #5 is the guy for you.
However, wouldn’t you agree it’s true what they say?:
You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince!