All relationships have their ups and downs, but you may need to make some adjustments if yours feels particularly precarious. Here are some tips to help ensure you don’t end up on what feels like a never-ending amusement park ride.
Avoid unnecessary arguments.
Fighting just for the sake of fighting or out of boredom can cause your relationship to feel more like a see-saw than a serious adult situation. We all like being right, but not everything deserves to be turned into an argument. Disagreements happen all the time; they’re part of life, so either let them pass or discuss them calmly instead of resorting to a fight.
Compromise is key.
One of the best ways to get your relationship on track and off the rollercoaster ride is to start compromising. It isn’t fair if one half of a couple always gets her way, which is why finding some middle ground is so important when arguments arise. This means looking at disagreement as something to negotiated rather than a black-and-white, win-or-lose situation. An arrangement that suits both of you keeps everyone happy.
Ditch the drama.
If you’re constantly making assumptions about your partner and then accusing him of things you’ve only conjured up in your overactive imagination, dial down the drama. We’re not suggesting you avoid letting him know how you feel if he really has done something to upset you, of course. If you’re just being dramatic and your hissy fits aren’t based in reality, though, your relationship is suffering. Stay calm and don’t overreact every time you assume something that may not even be true.