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How to prepare for a first date

You have a date tonight. Hurray! You’re excited but nervous. Before you let your nerves get the best of you, brush up on a few simple strategies to stay calm, cool and collected.

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Think positive.

Banish all negative thoughts from your mind. This means no thinking about worst-case scenarios and no negative self talk (he won’t like me, I look fat in this, etc.) Just be yourself, and everything will fall into place. If you go into the date with a positive outlook, you’ll be much more likely to have a good time no matter what happens.

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2Don’t expect too much.

Expecting too much from a first date will only set you up for a lot of disappointment if things don’t work out. So rather than hoping he’ll turn out to be your knight in shining armor (which he very well may), just focus on having a good time. Putting too much pressure on yourself to perform and on him to charm you may just lead to frustration.

3Stay calm.

Do something to distract yourself before the big night out so you don’t over-think the date to come. Whether you’re prone to panic about potential dating disasters or just get nervous about first dates, do your best to stay calm. Hit the gym beforehand, call a friend or take a long, hot bath — anything that will minimize pre-date anxiety.

4Think of things to talk about.

Spend some time thinking of possible topics of conversation in case there are gaps in conversation. Think about current events, movies you’ve seen, trips you’ve taken or books you’re reading — anything you can fall back on if conversation dries up (which it can when you’re nervous).

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First dates can be fun but it’s no secret that they’re also incredibly nerve wrecking. A little first date prep work is never a bad idea when it comes to having a positive attitude, getting your expectations into check and coming up with a few conversation starters to ease the nerves. While it’s good to be prepared, over thinking it will only send your first date nerves sky rocketing.

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