If you feel like your sex life has seen better days and your libido is lower than you’d like, a few adjustments might be in order. Sometimes, all it takes is a few small changes to improve your love life. Here are some of the simplest and most effective ways to have better sex.
De-stress at night.
Stripping down and enjoying sex is hard when you’re thinking about 15 other things that raise your anxiety level. If you want to have better sex, you need to dial down your stress level. This means having a cutoff time for work. At some point after you come home from the office, turn your phone off and restrict computer use. If you can, don’t even look at your laptop after a certain time. Make a point of meditating or doing some relaxing yoga poses instead, which will help you let go of the day and get in the mood for sex.
Have sex before going out.
Does it really make sense to go out, eat a big meal and then come home to get naked? Big meals can leave you feeling sluggish, tired and, well, the opposite of sexy. Instead of waiting until the end of the date to do the deed, have sex while you’re getting ready. We don’t discourage doubling your pleasure when you get back home, but if you’d rather just get comfortable and throw in a movie at that point, your sexual appetite will have already been sated.
Do a post-romp play-by-play.
Talk about the deed once it’s done. What did you like? What was missing? Of what would you love to see (and feel) more? The point isn’t for anyone to walk away feeling bad or inadequate; it’s to help you both have better sex. So aim for a post-romp play-by-play at least once a month to ensure you’re both as satisfied as you can be.
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It’s late. You’re nicely snuggled under the quilt, drifting pleasantly off to sleep. Your sweetheart nuzzles the side of your neck and you snuggle deeper into the bed. He says “Ah come on, just a quickie.” If it’s one of those nights that you desperately want to skip sex but feel like you still must, SheKnows Love Expert, Dr. Noelle Nelson, has just the solution for you!