It’s not always easy to find someone who is right for you, but your dry spell could be more than just bad luck. If you’ve been circling the waters for some time with nothing to show for your search, here are some reasons you might be coming up short.
You’re too needy
Acting too serious too soon can scare some guys off. Even if you think you’ve made a connection and you really like someone you’ve been seeing, don’t act too clingy after just a few dates. Give your new guy some breathing room so he doesn’t go running scared before date number four.
You’re too picky
Sure, standards are good. You can’t go dating every beer-swilling, unemployed loser than comes knocking, but just because he doesn’t make six figures and have abs of steel doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give him a chance. If you’re not finding Mr. Right, you may need to readjust your idea of who that really is.
You don’t go out enough
In order to meet guys, you have to leave the house. This means trying new classes at the gym, going to parties with friends, volunteering and even signing up for local sports teams as a way to meet people with similar interests – ideally cute ones, with nice eyes and killer smile. Quick tip: Adopt the “just say yes” policy for one month. During that time say yes to everyone – friends who want to go dancing, the guy from your gym who wants to grab coffee, your sister who wants to go on a last-minute weekend road trip. You never know what will happen when you say yes!
You’re not confident
If you don’t project confidence when in the presence of men you might be interested in, you can probably write off a love connection. Getting asked out (or asking someone out and getting a yes) requires a certain level of confidence. And just because you don’t feel confident doesn’t mean you can’t act like you are.