If you think your sex life could use some spicing up but you’re not sure why, we’ve put together some common reasons your relationship could be in a rut. Check out our simple tips for boosting your bond and getting your relationship back on track.
3 culprits for ruts in love
Too much stress
Stress can put a serious damper on sex. The more concerned you are about your job or your finances, the less you’ll feel like doing anything in the sack but sleeping. If your sex life has waned, think about what’s going on your life; chances are you’re preoccupied with other factors. Take some time to talk through what’s bothering you so you can get back to the bedroom.
Not enough time
Between work and the gym and cooking and cleaning, who has time for sex? It’s a common problem but the key is to make time. The sink full of dishes can wait, as can the pile of laundry. Do yourself a favour and trade housekeeping for something much more fun.
Lack of intimacy
Just because you don’t have time to be all over each other, doesn’t mean you can’t be intimate in more subtle ways. When stress and hectic schedules take over, a lot of intimate gestures (hugs, back rubs, a hand though his hair) fall by the wayside. Reintroduce the little things – they often lead to bigger things. Here are a few more ways to rev up the intimacy:
- Send him a loving email or text.
- Do something you know he’ll love, like buy his favorite beer or wine and make his favorite dinner.
- Do a chore you know he hates.
- Take him out to dinner or drinks at a place he loves.
- Suggest watching his favorite sport or better yet, take him to a game.