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Don’t let the holidays ruin your relationship or your sanity

Every woman wants to make the holidays special for everyone she loves, but holiday time can be very stressful and we tend to overextend ourselves. Avoid a holiday meltdown and save your sanity this year. Holidays can be special without making yourself and your family crazy.

Crazy Christmas

Avoiding scrooge syndrome

Sheila Rabe, author of the best-selling On Strike For Christmas offers these tips to keep you from feeling the need to go on strike during the holidays.

1Plan a “Silent Night”

Before the season begins, block out some days on your calendar for down time. Don’t accept invitations for those nights, and plan to do nothing but relax.


You don’t have to do it all. Let family members do some of the baking and decorating.

3Chop your lists in half

Most of us really do more than we need to. This year try cutting every holiday list, from your to-do list to your shopping list in half. Bake half the amount of cookies, do half the chores, buy half as much. This will give you less stress, less bills to pay off in the New Year. Family members who want more can volunteer to make that happen.

4Party while you work

Get together with friends to wrap presents and bake cookies. The work may not get done any faster, but you’ll have fun.

5Hire elves

Spend money instead of energy and hire help for the holidays. A student home for Christmas break might love to earn some extra income stringing lights for you or vacuuming your house.

6Give yourself a bonus

There’s nothing like a Christmas bonus to ward off a strike. Treat yourself to afternoon tea with a friend, a chick flick or a manicure. It will do wonders for your attitude. And if you get your nails done, it will do wonders for you holiday look!

7Plan ahead

The more you can do ahead of time the easier the holidays are so plan now to start getting ready for next Christmas in the New Year. Delegate a cupboard or some closet space to presents and shop the after-Christmas sales for everything from stocking stuffers and hostess gifts to wrapping paper and ribbon. Getting ready for the holidays a little at a time all year long is sure to make your holiday less stressful and more merry and bright!

Sheila Rabe‘s novel, On Strike for Christmas, has been been optioned for film and is set to air on the Lifetime channel at 8:00 p.m. on December 5, 2010.

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