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How to help yourself to a great orgasm

The number-one sex complaint among women is the lack of fulfilling orgasms. You don’t have to settle for a sub-par climax, though. By taking a few tips into consideration right now, you’ll be well on your way to an amazing orgasm tonight.

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1Figure out what feels good — alone.

How is your partner supposed to make you climax if you can’t even manage it on your own? Getting to know what works for you ahead of time through self-exploration is a fantastic way to figure out what gets you hot and what does not. Let your body lead the way, and focus on the sensations you are feeling without putting pressure on yourself to climax. By getting to know your body more intimately while alone, you will be better able to direct your partner when you are in the bedroom together. Also, it may turn your partner on to watch you pleasure yourself. If you are comfortable with it, let him have a peek. He may even learn a thing or two! Keep in mind that, even if you currently orgasm during sex, masturbation can take an ordinary orgasm to the next level.

2Do Kegel exercises.

Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles is a surefire way to intensify your orgasm. Pubococcygeus (PC) muscles are those that contract during orgasm and control the flow of urine. Just like any other muscle in the body, strengthening has its benefits. The stronger your pelvic floor muscles become, the better your orgasms. Kegel exercises were named after a gynecologist, Dr. Arnold Kegel, and are simple to perform. Flex your PC muscles as hard as you can for five seconds and then completely relax them. Continue with 20 repetitions like this a few times a day, but don’t do these exercises while urinating. You’ll notice the difference in your orgasms within a few weeks.

3Try something new.

Is lovemaking always the same with your partner? Try prolonging foreplay, having sex in a different position, or playing a game that adds some excitement to the experience. For example, give your partner an “off limits” body part for a set amount of time, or take turns telling the other what to do. The idea here is to do something out of the ordinary and unleash your inner creativity. Your body will respond positively — and you may just surprise yourself.

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