Life can be chaotic, so it’s important to take a step back every now and then to indulge in some quality gal pal time. But juggling multiple schedules and picking a date that works for everyone can be tough. Follow some of these tips the next time you try to plan the perfect girls’ night out.
Step 1: Pick a date sooner rather than later
This is the most important thing to do when getting your gals together. Try planning your party two months in advance; this will ensure people have time to pull their schedules together (blocking off work, finding a babysitter, etc.). It will also cut back on those last minute, “I can’t make it anymore,” phone calls or texts.
Step 2: Feel out the mood
Say your girls’ night out was initially supposed to involve dinner, drinks, and some dancing, but then your friend gets some bad news or you’re starting to feel under the weather. Don’t feel like you have to cancel the party… improvise instead! Move your party from on-the-scene to behind-the-scenes. Get together at a friend’s house and order takeout. Play board games or watch a movie. It’s not what you do that’s important, it’s the time you spend together. You’ll inevitably enjoy it regardless of what you and your friends get up to.
Step 3: Choose quality over quantity
It’s not the amount of time you spend together; it’s the quality of the time you share (which is especially important to note when you’re trying to allot time in your calendar for girlfriends). So schedule your plans accordingly. Instead of hitting up a restaurant for dinner if you only have an hour or two, opt to stay in so you can chat in a more intimate environment. If you end up having more time available, you can move to a dance club or bar to round out the night.
Step 4: Rotate between planners
Instead of sticking one person with the planning duties every single time you and your gals get together, rotate the responsibility. You’ll end up doing different things (different people plan different events!) and no one person will feel resentment over having to plan every party.
Step 5: Be realistic
Your friends are battling the same issues you are when trying to free up some time for fun—work, demands at home, indulging in personal time—if it takes some time to pull your plans together, don’t stress or take it personally.