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How to flirt like a pro

Don’t twirl your hair. Don’t laugh and tap him lightly. Don’t be too forward.

Woman flirting with man

The key to flirting is not being over-the-top and corny. If you’re trying too hard, the only thing he’ll notice is awkwardness.

By texting

Get yourself a copy of “Flirtexting: How To Text Your Way To His Heart,” a book written by two self-proclaimed good flirtexters, Olivia Baniuszewicz and Debra Goldstein. In the book, the pair explains the dating scene based on the premise that men are ahead of women when it comes to understanding text messages. By catching up to men in the texting realm, you can be closer to landing his heart via SMS.

Some of their winning texts include: “Cancel your plans. I just got you better ones,” and “Your company, my treat. Dinner tonight?” For more tips, visit

By burlesque tactics

This is as simple as holding your purse the right way and drawing attention to specific parts of your body. For instance, hang your purse on your forearm and leave your wrist up and out. By doing this, you are commanding your personal space. Now THAT is sexy!

When you pick up your napkin at the dinner table, do so in an elegant fashion. Keep your fingers pointed, and be poised and sensual. You can even do the same as you eat your meal. Little dainty bites brought up to your mouth in a very slow and sensual way will make him only have eyes for you. Just do it tastefully so you don’t end up looking slutty or awkward. He’ll notice–we promise!

By sophistication

Being a classy lady can do wonders. It’s like that old Hollywood glam. Women who are elegant and mature are flirtatious without even trying. Just a simple stare or the way you carry yourself is all it takes to flirt.

Just look at cougars. Men find them quite sexy. And guess why? Because they are sure of themselves and are assertive. Brandon, a man who prefers dating women older than him, says “They know what they’re doing in the bedroom, too. You know you’ll have a good time and you don’t have to pamper their insecurities because they probably don’t have any.”

By “not knowing”

When in doubt, pretend you don’t know how sexy you are. We asked Matt, a single ladies’ man, what drives him wild, and he said he finds girls who don’t know how sexy they are to be the sexiest. “There’s something about girls just ‘being themselves’ that I find really hot,” he explains. “If they don’t even know they’re flirting, that means it’s just natural to them and they’re inherently sexy.”

Okay, ladies, some of us have this down. For those of us who know, you can always fake it. Flirt but be a little bashful about it. He’ll think you’re clueless about your actions. Bat your eye lashes, let yourself blush, smile and look away…yes, these work!

What’s your fool-proof flirting tactic? Leave your comments below.

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