Complaints about women bosses preying on men have doubled since 1990. What’s going on out there?
Oblea reported her to his boss. His response? Oh, she does that to some men. She’ll stop eventually. Until then, avoid her.
And so Oblea did just that until the day after Christmas when he logged onto his company computer and clicked on his e-mail: There was the Pagan Princess, completely nude and performing a sex act on herself. Not two minutes later, another e-mail from her landed in his in-box. This one was another woman in a bondage getup.
Oblea complained again. He even showed his boss the pictures. Please, he said, just make it stop.
His complaints echoed up the chain of command, but they were ignored, perhaps because the Pagan Princess was also the company’s rainmaker, reeling in the big clients. Young Oblea was just an entry-level loan officer. He was expendable. Two days later when Mesinger heard that Oblea was making noise, she sent him an e-mail. You should rethink your position, it read.
A few weeks after that, although Oblea’s manager had recently said that he was adapting well to his new position, First Mutual fired him… for poor work performance.
That’s when Oblea turned to the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission. The EEOC filed a lawsuit on his behalf, and he received a monetary settlement from First Mutual. Oblea then quietly slipped away. No media blitz. After all, who would empathize? Was it even possible for a man to be sexually preyed upon by a woman?