7. Check Out His Competition
Lust works in bizarre ways. Get this: If you want to renew your man’s passion for you, slyly capture the eye of another guy. “Men do become more attentive and turned on by their partners when they see them being desired by other men,” says Buss. Aimee, 27, knows all about this surprising strategy: “When I get dressed up and guys at the bar check me out, I know Will’s thinking, Yeah, that’s right. She’s with me, suckers,” she says. “And he’s definitely clingier when he can smell the competition.”
To stoke your guy’s interest, trail a yummy waiter with your gaze or flash a flirty smile at one of his friends when you know he’s watching you. And it never hurts to make an extra bit of effort with your appearance when you know you’ll be in a situation where other men will admire you. Just the possibility of other guys eyeing you all night will definitely make him appreciate that he’s the lucky dog who gets to take you home.
Your man is an explorer by nature. The less he knows, the more he wants to know. That’s why you pique his curiosity when you don’t initially reveal your innermost thoughts.
Delaying gratification makes your man fantasize about you more. When you tease him with sexy text messages or the promise of sex, his imagination runs wild.
Men want what’s out of their reach. If you’re not available to him 24/7 and you have an active life outside the relationship, he has time to miss you.
Men flatline from the familiar. Variety is key. So throwing a new move into your game doesn’t just turn him on. It maintains his ability to be attracted to you.
Biologists believe the reason your odor turns him on is because smell is one of the most primitive senses — it travels a direct route to the brain’s limbic lobe, where it can promote an emotional reaction.
*Names have been changed.
Reprinted with Permission of Hearst Communications, Inc. Originally Published: 7 Ways to Make Him Ache for You