True joy – not quickie mood boosts but that totally stoked mental state – boils down to these surprising essentials. Behold, your ticket to bliss.
More choices and less happy
We live in a world where there are endless possibilities.Think about it: As women, we have a billion options when it comes to careers, relationships,clothes…hell, even groovy exercise classes. And yet, we’re more bummed out than ever before.
Proof: When Americans were surveyed in the 1950s, 53 percent said they were “very happy,” but by the late 1990s, it was down to 30percent. “Intuitively, having so many choices should make you happier, but it can actually make you feel worse,” says Barry Schwartz, PhD,author of The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less. “The more options you have, the higher your expectations, and when your expectations are sky-high, you’re destined for disappointment…no matter how good things get.”
So if such abundance doesn’t make us happy, then what does flip our bliss switch? Is it adopting the lifestyle before we had so many life options? Not entirely. Our parents grew up with fewer choices to make, but assuming their life goals aren’t the answer, because the world isn’t the same place today. The key is actually a mix of things, some timeless and some that relate to this generation. Here, the essential elements.