We live in an overworked society, where many of us wear productivity and busy as badges of honor. One of the most common things I hear from my life coaching clients is, “I don’t know how to slow down,” coupled with “I’m exhausted all the time.”
If you feel like you’re not where you’re supposed to be, off track or simply exhausted from trying so hard to make things work, it could be because you are an over-giver. Many of us are tired emotionally, physically and spiritually because we are there for everyone else and over-give. We want to help the people we care about and make a difference, so we give our time, resources, energy and even money. But we sometimes do this at the sacrifice of ourselves. In order to truly take care of others, we must first show up for our self. This is why I gathered a few easy steps you can take to help you regain your power and feel good from the inside out. If you find yourself exhausted and want to take your power back, these tips from my new book Joy Seeker can help you get centered, balanced and feel more instant relief.
One of the most overlooked ways we become disconnected from our joy is by overextending ourselves. You’re probably a lot like me: You have a big heart, and you care deeply about those around you. You want to help and support those you love. Giving of your time, money, and energy is a beautiful thing, but sometimes we over-give at the expense of ourselves. If you find yourself over-giving and are experiencing compassion fatigue, these methods can help.
1. Set Boundaries
2. Step Up Your Self-Care Routine
3. Connect with Your Inner Child
4. Pause in Your Pleasure
5. Find Ways to Acknowledge Your Own Unhealed Loss and Grief
6. Practice Self-Compassion
7. Automatic Write
Sit down with your journal and ask a question, such as, What do I need right now? Or, What is the best way to care for myself? And let yourself write. Don’t edit, just let it flow. Do this for five to ten minutes a day to really establish a strong relationship with yourself and intuition.
This is an excerpt from Joy Seeker: Let Go of What’s Holding You Back So You Can Live the Life You Were Made For by Shannon Kaiser, published by Citadel, an imprint of Kensington Press. Copyright 2019.