8 Things Every Woman Needs in Her Nightstand

We often associate great sex with great partners but the truth is, sometimes you need some devices to get you and your partner to the next level. And sometimes, you don’t even need a partner, because some of the best sex you’ll ever have is with yourself. So how do we achieve this mind-blowing, next-level sex? With a well-stocked nightstand, of course. We’ve compiled a list of a few nightstand essentials to stock up on and get your imagination flowing. You never know how something as simple as a nightstand overhaul can reinvigorate your routine.

A vibrator

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Womanizer vibrator, $129.00 at Adam & Eve

Whether you’re single or partnered, a long-term lover of all things sex toy or a vibe novice, you need at least one. They are always ready to play – as long as you keep them charged, of course, and they are equally fun whether you’re playing alone or with someone else. No matter how great someone is in bed, no human is as exacting or tireless as a vibrator. Try it. You’ll thank me. Two of my favorites are the Womanizer and the Nea 2.


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Flavored lubricant, $12 at Good Vibes

You don’t have to “need” lube to “need” lube. That is, just because you produce it naturally, does not mean a little extra isn’t called for. It’s a must for anal sex, but even for vaginal sex, it can be a welcome addition. This is one time when slippery when wet is a very good thing. Wicked and Sliquid both offer lubes for every occasion. Some of them even taste good. Just be sure if you’re using latex condoms that use a water or silicone based lube.


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The Big Book of Orgasms, $15.95 at Amazon

Even if you have a fabulous sex life, there’s always room for a little inspiration. From erotica to how-tos, there are books on every topic under the sexuality umbrella. Erotica anthologies are a great option, including Orgasmic: Erotica for Stories for Women and The Big Book of Orgasms. (For how-tos, you can check out O Wow: Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm and The Ultimate Guide to Solo Sex, both written by yours truly.)


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Betty Dodson Barbell, $140 at Amazon

Betty Dodson is the grandmother of all female orgasms. She’s a researcher, a teacher, and a cheerleader when it comes to female sexuality. And, she has created the ultimate sex toy, the Betty Dodson Barbell. It may look simple. But it is one pound of solid stainless steel that will surprise you with its magical powers. Okay, maybe it doesn’t have magical powers. But it will sure feel like it when you use it.


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Massage candle, $16.95 at Amazon

It may be cheesy and cliché, but candlelight is romantic. Keep one in your nightstand to set or keep the mood going without open curtains or bright overheads. Get one with a simple, but not overwhelming or overly flowery scent. Linen or vanilla is always good. If you want to get double duty out of your candle, try a massage candle. The wax melts into an oil, which helps set or keep the mood going.


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Lotion, $8.99 at Amazon

Whether you keep it close at hand to wrangle dry skin on your own body or to share with your partner, it’s nice to have a non-greasy lotion with a neutral scent at your bedside. Use it to give your partner a sexy massage or give yourself a massage before you grab your Womanizer.


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V-neck lingerie nightgown, $15.77 at Amazon

If you’re like me, you don’t necessarily wear matching satin and lace under your clothes day in and day out. But that doesn’t mean you can’t surprise your partner with naughty nothings when the mood strikes. Keep a few items in your nightstand drawer so they are always on call. Find some pieces that suit you — or get a few pieces that outside of your comfort zone that help you feel extra ready to play.


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Lindt dark chocolate, $2.68 at Amazon

I don’t know if there’s any science behind it, but it sure seems like nothing tastes better than it does after an orgasm and that goes double for sweets. Maybe it’s all in my head, but you might want to give it a whirl. Keep some dark chocolate caramels or some chocolate covered cherries or your personal favorite sweet in your drawer and you just might find yourself doubling your pleasure the next time you and your partner spend some quality time together. Don’t forget to share.


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Satin blindfold, $5.99 at Amazon

Handcuffs, soft rope, a blindfold, a feather tickler, bondage tape, or whatever fits into your fantasy can all be fun to have at hand. Be sure to check in with your partner to be sure they’re into it too. Once you have the green light, have some fun. There’s nothing wrong with a little fantasy play between consenting adults and the only limit is what the two of you can dream up together.

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