Multiple orgasms. They are the holy grail of every sexual encounter and for many women, seem just beyond the possible. For a good portion of women, even one orgasm (especially from penetration) seems impossible, so how on earth could we even imagine more than one?
As it turns out, we can do a whole lot more than we imagine. A new study reveals the trick to multiple orgasms. It is simple, easy and will make you wonder why you didn’t think of it yourself.
Here it is: Try something new.
What does that mean? It means that first orgasm may have been achieved by stroking a certain way and once it’s over, it feels way too sensitive to try it again. So instead of pushing that same button more, the idea is to change it up. Push a different button. Try a softer, more indirect approach.
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OMGYes is a new website designed to help women achieve this elusive pleasure we all crave, but some of us have trouble unlocking. They teamed up with Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., associate professor at Indiana University School of Public Health on a study that showed that 47 percent of women are having multiples using this very technique.
Now of course, you are sitting there saying: What technique? You have told me nothing! Well, that is the fun part. There is no one way of achieving orgasm. For one woman, the first one might come hard and fast while the second one takes light strokes and non-direct stimulation. The third and fourth? Who knows! But we can have fun experimenting.
In my own world, I have found this change-up to be true for sure. I have also found that starting with direct clitoral stimulation followed by vaginal is the road to four-plus finishes a session. The problem is that so few women talk about these things. We all feel like sex is deeply personal. And, of course, it is. But also: If 47 percent are having multiples, that also indicates that about 53 percent are not. And that’s sad.
Ladies, if we want to unlock pleasure by the dozen, we need to talk about these things. We need to be open. And most of all, we need to chat with our partners. Experiment. Tell him or her what feels good — and what doesn’t. Don’t be afraid to try and fail and try again. It will be fun. I believe we can get that number closer to 99 percent of women.