You and your guy can talk for hours. You tell him how your day was or about the gossip queen in the office. “Sharing is important to your relationship.” I’m here to tell you it’s simply not true. Squash the old saying that telling him every last detail will lead to a healthier relationship. So how much is too much?
1. Past exes
Keep the past in the past. Sure, you might want to tell your guy how many other guys you were with. He might even tell you he “wants” to know. Believe me, he doesn’t. You don’t know what number may seem high to him. His threshold could be two. Besides, you don’t want him sitting around with images of you with someone else. He knows there were others before him. Leave it at that. If he asks, skirt the subject by saying you only have eyes for him.
2. How you spend money
If you don’t have a shared account, you don’t have to divulge how you’re spending your money. As long as any bills you share are being paid, what you do with the extra cash is your business. If he says you spend too much on shoes or pocketbooks, tell him you bought them on clearance and not to stress about it.
3. Your flirtatious habits
Come on, you know you flirt. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love your honey. It just means you’re human. If a cute guy talks to you or checks you out at the gym, refrain from telling your guy. It will only lead to insecurity on his part. Why rock the boat if it’s just innocent.
4. How you feel about his mother
If I’ve learned one thing over the years, it’s never telling a guy how you feel about his mom — or his other family members for that matter. No matter how tight you and your man are, blood is always thicker than water. Sure, he can diss them, but keep your comments to yourself, even if his Mama is a queen b.
5. You hated something he bought you
Here’s another no-no. If your guy gives you a gift and you hate it, pretend. Earn yourself an Oscar and tell him how much you love it. Guys aren’t always the best at picking out gifts, and chances are he put a lot of effort into choosing the right one. If you tell him, it sucks you’ll burst his ego.
These are just some of the ways you can keep your relationship healthy and happy. Remember, you don’t need to share every intimate detail to be close to your man.