Being polite is a great quality to have, but it can have its downsides too. If you find yourself saying “sorry” to your partner because you don’t want to hurt their feelings, or feel the wrath of their judgment, listen up.
There will be times in your relationship where you’re going to have to apologize because we all make mistakes (like if you were 15 minutes late for your date or forgot to pick up the milk on your way home). But not all situations warrant those words.
Here are five things you should stop apologizing for in your relationship because there is nothing to be sorry about.
1. Your “number”
Your partner may be curious about how many people you’ve slept with, but really it’s not much of their business. You shouldn’t be embarrassed to share if you choose to, but once you do — own it. Whether your number is zero or over 100, no one is in the position to judge you and your preferences. It is history and you don’t need to say sorry.
2. Putting yourself first
Taking care of you — whether that means going to the gym, watching a chick flick by yourself instead of a movie date night together or anything else — putting you first is never a bad thing. Even when you’re in a relationship. You can’t be loving and nurturing to someone else unless you make time for you and there is nothing wrong with setting aside that time.
3. Caring about your career
Long gone are the days where women are expected to put our dreams and wishes aside for our partner — so drop the “sorry.” Caring about your career and loving your job is not something everyone experiences. So if you do have a job you love (or even if you don’t), it’s time to drop the apology when you say you can’t go out for dinner because you have a deadline to meet.
4. Not wanting to have sex
You should never feel sorry for not being in the mood and your partner should understand without pressuring you. You should never have to do something you don’t want to because you’re afraid of hurting feelings and you don’t need to feel bad about it either. If you’re not down, you’re not down.
5. Making more money
If your partner is intimidated because your job pays you more — too bad, for them. Own your success and stop feeling bad about doing so well. Be proud — you’ve earned it!