Nowadays, there’s an app to solve every kind of problem you could possibly think of. But when that problem is a rape allegation, surely that’s a sign we’re relying too much on technology and not enough on our own moral compass.
There’s an app for everything now, right? If you want to sleep more, eat healthier or be more organised at work, you’re just two clicks away from an app which promises all that and more. But what if you’re after an app that doesn’t simply monitor your sleeping patterns, but rather, who you sleep with, so you don’t find yourself in a he-said, she-said rape allegation battle? Well, there’s an app which claims to solve that problem, too.
The app is called Good2Go and allows users to create a digital contract on their phone with the person they’re about to have consensual sex with. Here’s how it works: When you’re ready to have sex with someone, you simply pull out your phone, hand it over to your partner and have them answer a few quick questions to ensure they are willing and able to have consensual sex.
Questions pop up on the screen. The first is: Are we Good2Go? With which the user can answer either “no, thanks”, “yes, but… we need to talk” or “I’m Good2Go”. It also asks if the person is sober, mildly intoxicated, intoxicated but Good2Go or “pretty wasted”.
If you choose the latter, you’re automatically not allowed to consent and are informed that you should hand the phone back to your partner and wait until you sober up to make an informed decision, and perhaps sit in a corner and think long and hard about what you’ve done while you’re at it.
Is this where society is headed when it comes to social responsibility, sex talk and relationships? We need online documented contracts between consenting adults to prove or disprove a person had consensual sex, just in case the information is used in court or a legal battle down the line?
What happened to that simpler time — the time before right-swiping and dating algorithms dominated our mating rituals, when men and women looking to explore the messy and embarrassing (let’s be honest) sexual experiences of youth spoke to their friends or parents or that cool older student at school who seemed to know everything about sex and shared their pearls of wisdom on the playground at lunchtime. They knew all the important stuff, like how much tongue to use during a pash and what second base meant.
What happened to talking about sex with the person you’re about to have sex with? What happened to trust and respect? And that little voice inside of us that knows what is right for us, guiding us about what choices to take and what rules to break — what happened to that little voice? It’s probably been dulled by the iridescent glow beaming at us from our devices and washed out by social media white noise.
Social media, technology, apps like Grinder and Tinder — they all have the potential to both harm or help us in terms of romance and relationships.
The consensual sex app:
The risk of being catfished:
I JUST GOT CATFISHED!!! #HelpMe
— Rasheed Ashanie (@SheedSantana) September 29, 2014
Facebook knows more about your relationship status than you do:
— Carbonated.TV (@CarbonatedTV) September 24, 2014
The search for love has become a marketing strategy:
One retailer is out to play matchmaker with a pair of vibrating shoes and a personal touch http://t.co/uWrk6Lu8DR ‘The Solemate Experiment’
— news.com.au (@newscomauHQ) September 23, 2014
People are saying technology will be the cause of human extinction:
— Kevin Clark (@bykevinclark) September 29, 2014
If there’s an app to use before engaging in consensual sex, where will it end? The future of romance and relationships isn’t looking so good.
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