May is Masturbation Month, declared for the purpose of protecting our rights to masturbate. Masturbation is so often an undercover topic shrouded in silence. Few people admit to masturbating, with sex toys being even more secret. It wasn’t until the Sex and the City episode when Samantha proudly declared her newfound joy (and obsession) in her rabbit vibrator that women finally started admitting openly to using sex toys and, with that, masturbating.
Make time for masturbation
With everyday stresses such as work, relationships and family, I can almost hear you saying, “What? I don’t have time to masturbate!” As always, your needs come bottom of the list, with everyone else taking priority ahead of you. But masturbating is a great stress-reliever, as well as a way to boost your self-love and acceptance. More than that, masturbation is a wonderful way to get to know your body and discover what you enjoy in the boudoir.
It’s healthier than you think
It’s easy for you to book an appointment for a massage or a manicure, yet making one for some dedicated masturbation time might seem a little more difficult to justify. Perhaps knowing that masturbation has a raft of health benefits will make it more acceptable.
A few of the health benefits of masturbation are:
- It releases endorphins, which are hormones which promote feelings of happiness. If you are feeling down, why not masturbate to lift your mood?
- It helps to put you to sleep. When you masturbate and release oxytocin, your body becomes relaxed enough to move into restful sleep.
- It relieves muscle pain, including period pain. With the release of the feel-good hormones, pain in the body may be reduced, leaving you feeling calmer.
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Everyone is doing it
Studies show that 82 per cent of women masturbate. So, while you may not be admitting to it, most of you are probably doing it anyway. Whether you buy a sex toy or you prefer manual stimulation, getting it on with yourself is pretty common, so set aside the judgements. Knowing that your friends are doing it, whether they tell you or not, might make it easier to enjoy masturbating. Experimenting a little with your body might open you up to unexpected feelings of pleasure and surprise you with new ways to feel orgasm.
It improves your sex life
Masturbating makes a big difference to your sex life. Your pelvic floor becomes stronger, making orgasms more powerful and making sex more enjoyable. Also, if your partner isn’t quite hitting the spot, you might like to show them while you masturbate. So many women who come to see me for sex therapy complain that sex is boring or under-stimulating, so take responsibility for your sex life and get to know your own body. Being able to show your partner what you want in bed is vital to having a fulfilling sex life. In fact, it can be a huge turn-on for your partner to watch you enjoy your body, while at the same time getting to know what you like.
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Making the time for self-pleasure is an act of love towards yourself. If your self-esteem is low or you prioritise everyone else ahead of yourself, then dedicating time to loving your body will make you feel better, calmer and happier. Just like you take the time to pamper your body in other ways, spoil yourself this May by indulging in some delicious self-stimulating pleasure.
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