Real life: Best and worst marriage advice

Did Valentine’s Day end up with the love of your life proposing? Perhaps February 14th was the day you tied the knot. Whether you’re a bride-to-be or a newly wed, we figured we’d pass on some time-honoured advice from our smugly married readers. Find out what they said when asked “What is the best and worst marriage advice you were given?”

How to make a marriage last (OR NOT)

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Did Valentine’s Day end up with the love of your life proposing? Perhaps Feb. 14 was the day you tied the knot. Whether you’re a bride-to-be or a newlywed, we figured we’d pass on some time-honoured advice from our married readers. Find out what they said when asked them about the best and worst marriage advice they’d received.

Best marriage advice our readers ever received

Hang out with women who are nice about their husbands, otherwise their attitudes will rub off on you. — Christine, 45
My best advice came from the hubby’s uncle. Don’t let the mother-in-law rule your lives. I haven’t, but geez has it been a battle  — Elisha, 37
Don’t go into marriage with unrealistic expectations and — the advice that has kept me married for 22 years — don’t hold grudges! — Sarah, 46
If you need to settle an argument quickly, play “scissors, paper, rock”. It resolves anything from who is going to pick up the kids from school to whose turn it is to do the dishes. — Melissa, 30
When the kids come along, don’t forget you were a wife first before you were a mother. You can’t just forget about your husband’s needs just because the kids are demanding and you are tired. You need to suck it up, sunshine. — Suzie, 45
Moaning about things never fixed anything. If you don’t like the situation, get off your big lazy bum and do something about it. Sounded harsh at the time, but it has been the one piece of advice that has always stayed in the back of my head. — Jen, 31
Don’t try and change him; it won’t work. — Patti, 38
Don’t air your dirty laundry on Facebook. — Kat, 45
Maintain your individuality; just because you are married, doesn’t mean you have to become a clone of your husband. — Cheryl, 38
Sometimes you have to decide what’s more important: being right or your relationship. — Lola, 44

There are no rules for love; you gotta find what works for you. — Anna, 34

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Worst marriage advice our readers ever received

My mother-in-law told me that if her son wanted to play around with other women, I should just let him. Just concentrate on making home a nice place for him to come home to and don’t ask too many questions about his whereabouts when he finally turns up. Seriously. — Shelly, 31
Never go to bed angry. I don’t believe you can resolve anything when you are tired and cranky. Have a good night’s sleep and when you wake up in the morning, chances are you won’t even be able to remember what you were fighting about. — Anna, 34
There’s nothing wrong with being friends with an ex-boyfriend. — Sarah, 26
Don’t wear white to your wedding, deary, it wouldn’t be proper. — Lisa, 28
The pastor at our wedding told my husband to always say “You are right dear”, even if he did not agree with me. — Atina, 43
The first year is usually the toughest; it gets easier the longer you’ve been married. Utter rubbish. The first year was great. It was when the kids came along things turned to custard. — Jodi, 32

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You can always get divorced if it doesn’t work out. Seriously, who says that right before you’re about to walk down the aisle? I’ll tell you who: my father. — Tracie, 39
Don’t bother a man with your worries the minute he walks through the door. Make sure the kids are quiet, you have his slippers ready and make sure you look pretty! Thanks, Nana. — Stephanie, 26
Always make sure he knows that he loves you more than you love him, so he knows that if he puts one foot wrong, he’s out the door. I didn’t even know what to say to my mum after that gem came out of her mouth. — Natalie, 29
Marry well. Ahh excuse me, what’s that even supposed to mean? Don’t get married if you have some kind of flu? — Tanya, 23
It doesn’t matter if you don’t love him, as long as you can put up with him without wanting to kill him. — Joanne, 27
Love means never having to say you’re sorry. — Rach, 34

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