We all deal with breakups in different ways. Some of us will bury ourselves under the covers until we feel able to face the world. Others will throw themselves into their work (or a bag of potato chips). These are actually pretty normal ways of coping. Saying that, here’s what NOT to do after a breakup!
How to break up
not break down
Stalk your ex’s social media
If you’ve started spying (and enlisting friends to spy for you), you’re about to enter breakup crazy town. If you’ve created a fake account to enhance your spying abilities, then you have officially been elected mayor. Step away from the computer. Spying will only trap you in the emotional space where you’re obsessing over him or her.
Plans to “bump into” them
Staged run-ins with an ex can only end in disappointment. After all, what do you hope to achieve? Chances are they aren’t going to come running back to you just because you’ve spent ages making yourself look casually stunning. Don’t waste your time, energy and makeup — save it for those who will appreciate it.
Partying to find new love
Partying so you can meet someone to fill the emotional void left by your ex is absolutely the wrong approach. It may feel a bit lonely/completely crushing not to have a partner, but if you take a breather and focus on yourself you’ll be surprised how quickly you’ll adjust to (and maybe even like) the single life. Remember: New love doesn’t come along when you’re looking. It comes along when you least expect it.
Getting a new ‘do
Entering a hair salon fuelled by post-breakup rage is a recipe for disaster. That bright red asymmetrical bob may seem like an incredibly fashion-forward idea now, but wait until the next morning where you’re sobbing over pictures of your once-luxurious tresses. If you’re absolutely desperate for a revamp, invest in a new wardrobe. This is a much better option, mostly because the old one won’t take a year to grow back.
The bottom line? Breakups are awful, but the key to moving on is to focus on you.