For any modern couple involved in a long-term commitment, it’s easy to fall into a routine and take each other for granted. With these simple tips, you can bring back that loving feeling and reinvigorate your relationship.
Stuck in a rut
Does this sound like your relationship?
- Either of you or both work extremely long hours at the office or travel often for work.
- You have babies or children.
- You can’t remember the last time you went out on a romantic date with your significant other.
- You spend most of your evenings glued to the television catching up on X Factor or Coronation Street.
Get out of the rut. Just because you have earned your relationship-cred through years of loyalty and commitment, it doesn’t mean the romance should be dead. The next time you find yourself tempted to slip into your jogging bottoms, stop yourself and try these tips.
The power of the kiss
Do you remember your first kiss? That kiss probably gave you butterflies because it was so significant and special. Keep that spark alive with gentle kisses first thing in the morning and longer more passionate kissing when you reconnect at home after a long day at work. Never underestimate the power of the kiss.
We can often be hard and critical on ourselves but a positive compliment from our loved one can significantly enhance our well-being and self-esteem. The next time you’re getting lost in his hazel eyes, mention how gorgeous they are. Perhaps he’s cleaned up without being asked; praise him for his help.
Date each other
If you have children, hire a babysitter. The kids will survive one night without you; they are resilient creatures. Depending on your interests, check out a new restaurant, independent movie, art exhibition or go salsa dancing. Aim to do this at least once a week to switch up the daily routine.
Getting active can take many forms as long as it is together. Britain is blessed with stunning landscape from 282 Munros (mountains over 3,000 feet) scattered throughout Scotland to the beauty of the Lake District, Yorkshire Dales and historic architecture. If hitting up the countryside isn’t your thing, then try a joint sport, such as tennis, badminton, cycling or rock climbing.
Another option is to get active in the community by volunteering your time together to a non-profit organisation you both care about. By getting active together, in whatever form you choose, you will learn something new, develop as a couple and enjoy a fresh perspective on life.
You are never too old to play… in the bedroom. Or anywhere that suits you for that matter. Sex, especially in a long-term relationship, should not be taken for granted. According to a 2011 study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, of 3,240 men and 3,304 women in long-term relationships, the majority of men (54 percent) and almost half the women (42 percent) reported they were unhappy with the frequency of sex. Communication is extremely important for frustrated couples since they should discuss their needs, make sex a priority and create time for it, as they do with every other aspect of their lives.